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[lulu2]

I would move without hesitation and would hope someone would do the same for my husband and me.

[Moonchilde]

On 3/8/2015 cody2 said:

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said: Moonchilde, I can sympathize. He was rude and personally, I would have told him I was unable to get up. No excuses, and then I would simply have ignored him. I guess I have just lived a long time and do what I want and I don't care if some stranger thinks I'm not nice.

Thanks, SR :-) I too am not overly concerned what strangers think, so all the "you are just a silly rude person" responses without anything more constructive doesn't faze me. In these forums it's expected, and you know how people can't bear to disappoint ;-)

moonchilde, you asked how YOU would feel/react and people replied how THEY would feel/react. I, for one, did not call you silly or rude. I just answered your question. The danger in asking questions is getting answers that might, or might not, agree with you.

No Cody, you have not been snarky, nor have a few others. And I knew what I was getting into when I posted. In some sense, my OP invited the perfect payback opportunity for a few who have disliked me or my posts elsewhere in the forum. I expected that too :-)

[Shorty2U]

I would have slid down a seat. No big deal. Because why would this man want to sit separate from his GF with you or that other man in between them?

[VioletEyes]

On 3/8/2015 Shorty2U said:

I would have slid down a seat. No big deal. Why should his GF have to sit separated by you and or the other man?

Why? Because a patron of the restaurant was already seated and in the middle of her meal. If anyone is in such a hurry that they can't wait for a seat ""together"" then they need to find a fast food chain or some place equally as quick.

[cody2]

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:

On 3/8/2015 cody2 said:

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said: Moonchilde, I can sympathize. He was rude and personally, I would have told him I was unable to get up. No excuses, and then I would simply have ignored him. I guess I have just lived a long time and do what I want and I don't care if some stranger thinks I'm not nice.

Thanks, SR :-) I too am not overly concerned what strangers think, so all the "you are just a silly rude person" responses without anything more constructive doesn't faze me. In these forums it's expected, and you know how people can't bear to disappoint ;-)

moonchilde, you asked how YOU would feel/react and people replied how THEY would feel/react. I, for one, did not call you silly or rude. I just answered your question. The danger in asking questions is getting answers that might, or might not, agree with you.

No Cody, you have not been snarky, nor have a few others. And I knew what I was getting into when I posted. In some sense, my OP invited the perfect payback opportunity for a few who have disliked me or my posts elsewhere in the forum. I expected that too :-)

And that is what I meant about a war. I am not aware of most of that and choose not to participate. I hope you don't feel that my difference in opinion was a put down. We just see this particular incident differently. So I will just move on.

[blackhole99]

I would never sit at the counter of a busy coffee shop, but if I did I would have moved down, no problem. My husband on the other hand would have never moved and if the guy got loud with him the guy would be looking up at him from the floor.

[Moonchilde]

On 3/8/2015 cody2 said:

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said:

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said: Moonchilde, I can sympathize. He was rude and personally, I would have told him I was unable to get up. No excuses, and then I would simply have ignored him. I guess I have just lived a long time and do what I want and I don't care if some stranger thinks I'm not nice.

Thanks, SR :-) I too am not overly concerned what strangers think, so all the "you are just a silly rude person" responses without anything more constructive doesn't faze me. In these forums it's expected, and you know how people can't bear to disappoint ;-)

What I find interesting is how anyone who has been trained in appropriateness and good manner could give this guy a free pass. You were in the middle of your meal and he should have had the manners to wait for either a table or for two seats to become available. I feel sorry for the woman he was with.

Maybe the man and lady were eating on their lunch break from work. Maybe they didn't have a lot of time to wait. This was at a lunch counter not a 4-star, sit down dinner. What is so interesting about different folks having different opinions? Pretty normal.

It really doesn't warrant a war pitting one poster against another. It is just opinions on lunch.

Um...Sunday afternoon, 3 p.m. Not at all likely they were two working colleagues. Not rural area. Not small town. Densely populated urban area. This restaurant is busy (and open) 24/7. Frequented by everyone from gardeners to screenwriters, because of the food. City institution. And it's well known you have to wait, no matter when you go.

[lovescats]

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:

On 3/8/2015 lovescats said: I would not have moved. After you moved did the guy next to you move down too.

He did, but he had not received his meal, either.

Then it sounds like that guy could have just got up and sat on the other side next to you. I think it wouldn't have been a big deal for the guy and his girlfriend to have sat apart it wasn't like it was his child.

[Cakers1]

Who knew that saying it's no big deal to be asked means one is lacking in manners and untrained in appropriateness.

It's a lunch counter in a coffee shop and I also agree that it isn't a big deal - just because the meal is served doesn't mean one can't slide down.

We often ask people to join us at a local cafe if it's crowded - we don't hog 2 extra seats. A little different scenario but the premise is the same - are we so stingy with our space that we can never allow for a little kindness even if it's just a seating arrangement?

The man may have responded rudely after being given a look, but I don't see what is so wrong about his initial request. I've seen it asked at other counters and I've never seen a person not smile and just say "Sure!".

I think we've become so self-encapsuled that the slightest perception that our space is being invaded ends up with somebody feeling miserable and put out.

Kind of a shame, imo.

[Moonchilde]

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said:

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said: Moonchilde, I can sympathize. He was rude and personally, I would have told him I was unable to get up. No excuses, and then I would simply have ignored him. I guess I have just lived a long time and do what I want and I don't care if some stranger thinks I'm not nice.

Thanks, SR :-) I too am not overly concerned what strangers think, so all the "you are just a silly rude person" responses without anything more constructive doesn't faze me. In these forums it's expected, and you know how people can't bear to disappoint ;-)

What I find interesting is how anyone who has been trained in appropriateness and good manners could give this guy a free pass. You were in the middle of your meal and he should have had the manners to wait for either a table or for two seats to become available. I feel sorry for the woman he was with.

I have been in situations where someone wanted two seats together, so they asked me if I'd mind moving, before they ever sat down - so they could make the choice. This guy just sat and assumed he'd get what he wanted.