How would you feel/react if .. - Page 3

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said:
On 3/8/2015 colliegirls said:
It's no big deal to scoot your plates down one place at a counter or bar.

She said she had her meal, water glass, utensils etc in front of her. When he asked she was eating her meal. What he did was rude and clearly no real reason why she had to accommodate him.

Thank you. THAT was my issue. No biggie to scoot down a seat if you haven't been served or are finished, but while you're eating? No. I would never dream of asking someone to do that.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

AnikaBrodie · ‎03-10-2010

No big deal for me ... and I have done it without hassle.

"Faith, Hope, Love; the greatest of these is Love." ~The Silver Fox~

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

On 3/8/2015 Marp2 said:
Once I committed to giving him "the look" instead of moving I would most certainly not have moved after he made that comment. All that did was empower him to intimidate or embarrass someone else next time he wanted his way.

A point I considered, but did not, in the end, want to be as rude as he was.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:
On 3/8/2015 terrier3 said:
On 3/8/2015 cody2 said:
I would have smiled and moved down one.

Me too.

It would have been a kind gesture.

You moved anyway...and it must have been uncomfortable being so close to them after you acted so huffy.

I "acted huffy?" I gave him an unhappy look because he could clearly see I was actively eating as he was asking. He did not actually say "sorry" to indicate he thought it was the slightest inconvenience. And it would not have been an inconvenience, nor would I have thought twice about it, if I had not been in the middle of a meal. Not the beginning before I was served food, and not the end. The.middle. Nor would I have minded all that much if he'd asked in a different way, as in "I'm so sorry to ask you at this point, but would you mind.." I don't know - I guess it's considered odd to expect the smallest bit of forethought and consideration when being asked to do something that's inconvenient. Not inconvenient like moving a water glass, but moving glass, a bowl and a full plate, silverware while eating.

But then, I knew I'd be in for it the moment I posted the OP, because people don't actually read what posters have said, they often respond as if you've said what you've taken pains to explain did not happen. I'm not surprised - or embarrassed either, sorry.

I guess rudeness is expected these days. All I know is I feel no reason to accommodate these types of people ...maybe thirty years ago I would have been intimidated but no more. And it seems even though you moved the clod got even ruder...

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

even with a water glass, condiments, plates, napkins, etc......it would take less than a minute to slide down so another person could be seated next to their dining companion. it would be a different story if you were at a table, but at a counter or bar i think it is just too easy to move, even with your meal in front of you.

********************************************
"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing." - Albert Einstein

scotttie · ‎03-09-2010

I note that there was another patron who had to move as well. Perhaps the guy with the GF should have waited for a table....

I also have a feeling it was not so much that he asked but the WAY he asked. Am I right moonchilde?

lovescats · ‎03-10-2010

I would not have moved. After you moved did the guy next to you move down too.

brewhaha · ‎07-25-2010

I would tell him "Bill, what would Hillary say?".

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

On 3/8/2015 scotttie said:
On 3/8/2015 terrier3 said:
On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:
I "acted huffy?" I gave him an unhappy look because he could clearly see I was actively eating as he was asking. He did not actually say "sorry" to indicate he thought it was the slightest inconvenience. And it would not have been an inconvenience, nor would I have thought twice about it, if I had not been in the middle of a meal. Not the beginning before I was served food, and not the end. The.middle. Nor would I have minded all that much if he'd asked in a different way, as in "I'm so sorry to ask you at this point, but would you mind.." I don't know - I guess it's considered odd to expect the smallest bit of forethought and consideration when being asked to do something that's inconvenient. Not inconvenient like moving a water glass, but moving glass, a bowl and a full plate, silverware while eating.

But then, I knew I'd be in for it the moment I posted the OP, because people don't actually read what posters have said, they often respond as if you've said what you've taken pains to explain did not happen. I'm not surprised - or embarrassed either, sorry.

Maybe next time wait for a table if you need your space. Lunch counters are like buses...crowded and communal.

Okay, you've made your point. Sheesh.

What's interesting is how some give this clod a free pass but call out the OP. I guess they missed the part when she did give in to his demands, he got all huffy with her.