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Cakers1 · ‎03-09-2010

On 3/9/2015 SnowPink said:
On 3/9/2015 Cakers1 said:
Gee no sense of humor around here. But it's ok for some to accuse others of having no manners and throw other assorted insults.

(My post was removed).

I laughed.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

I would probably move. They do this in movie theaters too.

Gooday · ‎03-23-2010

STOP THE INSANITY ALREADY!

RainCityGirl · ‎12-16-2012

On 3/9/2015 mochachino said:
On 3/9/2015 RainCityGirl said:
I wasn't speaking of anyone in particular. I just noticed some were coming down pretty hard on the OP. I think the OP did exactly what you would have done actually; yet, she is being shamed for her feelings.

uh no, you've got that wrong., She is not being shamed, she has stated that she couldn't care less about rude people or what anyone thought of her. You can't shame people who don't care what you think of them. She remarked that since they were 3-4 other places to eat in the area, they should just go there. If anything, she seems proud of herself for sticking up for her principles and once she got some support from other posters, actually got even more proud of her behavior.

SHE MOVED!!!!! What more do you want?????? She is not required to be thrilled about it. You're painting her with your own brush.

Justina rae · ‎01-02-2015

On 3/9/2015 terrier3 said:
I was taught that the first rule of good manners is putting other people's concerns and comfort above my own....helping people cheerfully.

These rules may differ from person to person or based on situation, but there is one rule of good manners (and life, in general) that is always easy to follow - do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

CONSIDERATION for others should be #1. That's what makes men "gentlemen" and women- "ladies."

And therein lies the conundrum. How about the guy "doing unto the OP" the way he would like to be treated if he is in the middle of his meal? Where was HIS consideration? If everyone thinks it wasn't such a big deal for the OP to scoot down -- plates, glass, utensils and all, with a mouthful of food -- then perhaps it wasn't such a big deal for the guy to have some respect and let the OP finish her meal. HE should have been the one to either wait for 2 available seats or go to another diner that is less crowded or even order takeout. What gives him the privilege of disturbing someone else's meal that they paid for? In a million zillion years I would never disturb someone else in the middle of eating their meal...and I guess I would expect the same courtesy. I don't think I would glare at the guy but I might actually say "Would you mind giving me 5 minutes to finish my meal"? Who is doing unto whom?

Surfnturf · ‎03-09-2010

This has to be one of the most bizarre threads I've read here in a long time.

60sgirl · ‎11-24-2014

On 3/9/2015 RainCityGirl said:
On 3/9/2015 mochachino said:
On 3/9/2015 RainCityGirl said:
I wasn't speaking of anyone in particular. I just noticed some were coming down pretty hard on the OP. I think the OP did exactly what you would have done actually; yet, she is being shamed for her feelings.

uh no, you've got that wrong., She is not being shamed, she has stated that she couldn't care less about rude people or what anyone thought of her. You can't shame people who don't care what you think of them. She remarked that since they were 3-4 other places to eat in the area, they should just go there. If anything, she seems proud of herself for sticking up for her principles and once she got some support from other posters, actually got even more proud of her behavior.

SHE MOVED!!!!! What more do you want?????? She is not required to be thrilled about it. You're painting her with your own brush.

LOL. you know what's funny about your post? You posted the other day how a woman would make such a great President because they have empathy, genuine concern for others, and all sorts of glowing attributes. I laughed out loud when I read that because even on this teeny, tiny forum where maybe 100 women regularly post, not 24 hours can go by without fighting, giving sermons to people who don't agree with their VP's, snark, criticism and so on.

Women can almost never cordially agree or disagree unless they are with a group of friends who think alike on everything. This thread illustrates exactly the opposite of your post about women. The OP and those who feel she was put upon by some rude guy feel they are in the right and should not have had to move. Those who feel while sliding down might have been a minor inconvenience, they would have moved without any drama or negative body language and all would have been well are being chastised because they didn't give the OP she must have wanted when she posted this thread.

I'm done with P.C. Just say what you mean and mean what you say. It's easier.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

I'll preface my post by saying I read the entire thread.

Sheesh! My husband and I have occasionally had a meal at a bar when a couple may come in with only one free seat and have actually moved over one stool so that the couple can sit together. Yes, we moved our dishes and silverware and drinks. No LOOKS involved. It took 30 seconds. Much to our surprise, on one occasion, the young man bought us a round of drinks and the others thanked us and smiled, which actually led to some pleasant conversation. We would do the same if someone offered to move for us.

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