Community Chat

[MsCatLuver]

I now work from home and DH is retired...so, we are around each other most of the day and spend about 3 hrs together at night (dinner and TV)

This is much different than when we both worked.  Then we only spent time together for a few hours at night and on the weekends.

[Peaches McPhee]

Weekdays, not much at all.  We both work full-time, so that's at least 9 hours apart right there.  We do have dinner together, but then usually go in separate rooms in the house to spend the evening doing what we wish.  So, maybe 2.

Weekends, it can be as much as 24 hours. Sometimes we do have different things to do, but not usually.

[deepwaterdotter]

We are both retired and at home together all day, but we have interests that take us to different places.  I volunteer at two different facilities and attend a bi-weekly political discussion group at the library.  Also a non-fiction book discussion group.  My husband belongs to a target shooting club, and volunteers at his archery club range.  He also keeps busy with landscaping maintenance on our 2-acre property.  We don't seem to tire of being together yet.  

[seaBreeze]

Half hour  (in same room, awake).

Does spend  mean talking to each other?

Experts say you really only give six minutes total attention (one-on-one) to a child daily... this is probably about as much time as we really concentrate on each other's conversations at my house.  With TV, computer, and cells ... I would guess most married couples (not married within three years), live concurrently  with their spouse or S.O., but not within the bounds of relevant conversation.    JMHO. 

[SeaMaiden]

Both retired.  We have different bed times...different wake times...we watch different TV shows on different TV's in different rooms.  We are together most all day at home, but doing  different things. Works for us!  Married 40 years!❤️🙂

[blackhole99]

We are retired so we are at home or out somewhere together 23 out of 24 hours a day At first it used to get on my nerves a little, but we have our own space in the house and that makes all the difference.

[lulu1]

My husband retired last month.  It's wonderful having him around on and off all day!

[Sooner]

About all the time!  We love being together, talking, reading, doing things we love doing.  He plays golf and we both go to lunches sometimes, but we never get tired of being around one another.  

[PamfromCT]

We have been retired quite a while and spend a great deal of time together.  We decided early on that each could do as we pleased.  No preordained bedtime, wakeup time, etc.  Of course, we are still living in our family home, a large colonial.  Hey, there’s the family room, the living room, three-season room, 2 and a half baths, etc.  And my DH loves, loves TVs.  We each have an upstairs room that is ours, and he generally goes to his “study” when he watches his sports.  I am not a fan and can watch TV elsewhere or read in quiet.  It helps having a lot of space!  We still share our master bedroom, and the bath there is his.  Mine is off the hall, done in a bit of a Paris theme.  Oh boy, when we downsize we better have a place with some room.

[chrystaltree]

I work from home, he goes to his office.  He leaves for work at 6:30, I get up at 6:30.  He gets home around 6pm.  We eat dinner together and watch news together and talk until about 8:30 and then we watch separate tv programs.  I'm in the livingroom, he's in the family room.  We go to bed at 11pm.  So, about around 3 hours on the week days.  We don't spend much time together on Saturdays, we're off doing our own thing.  Sometimes we go to eat on Saturday night.  Sunday, is the day we spend quality time with each other.