How do you say no - Page 3

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

With lots of determination. I think a real friend wouldn't push you like this

MacDUFF · ‎05-29-2015

"I've said 'no, thank you, I'm not interested' several times...please don't ask me again." Then smile and change the subject. If she persists, then I'm sorry to say you may just be a "sale" to her and not a friend.

~~~ I call dibs on the popcorn concession!! ~~~

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

p.s.: Many, many years ago, an acquaintance/friend had a young toddler child who had a habit of screaming on and on. As we were walking together and pushing her 'taylor-tot', my friend told me to just ignore her daughter; let her scream, and eventually she will stop. So, we were talking about 'this and that', half of which we made made up. After about fifteen plus minutes, her daughter stopped screaming for the entire hour stroll. (Keep in mind that the child was not crying or in distress. Just screaming.) She eventually broke the habit, and turned out to be a very fine young girl, and young woman. Long story short, sometimes ignoring works out the best, but it does take patience and a bit of time.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Don't blame the person. You are so busy trying to be polite that you aren't getting your message across. You think you are saying no but you're the only one who knows that. The next time she asks, do not smile or try to be pleasant or make excuses or be wishy-washy. Don't be rude. Just speak up and say "No thank you, Mary. I'm not interested at all". and then change the subject.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

If you say you're not interested right now it leaves the door open for her to bring it up again and again.

She is not taking your sensibilities to heart, there is no need for you to soft-sell it. You can simply say, "No thank you, I am definitely not interested. Please don't ask me again."

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Noel, you're a genius! 'Please don't ask me again'. That's a statment that will probably work out to be the best.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

If this person kept on me, relentlessly, (pushy is something to which I don't respond well) I'd probably end up just saying 'look, I keep telling you that I'm not interested. That is not going to change, so please stop battering me'.

If that didn't do it, I would figure that person fancies his/her brainwashing more important than our friendship, so I'm pretty much out. I don't like being disrespected and that is what this person is doing.

While I totally get that you don't want to 'hurt her feelings', she is disrespecting you so I guess your feelings don't matter much to her and you just have to be more straight-forward, I guess. I'm not a *** for tat type of person, but at some point you need to be on an even playing field and at this time you aren't - you are considering her feelings and she's not considering yours.

dex · ‎03-09-2010

@happycat Yes you are right but she is so excited about her new career path that I am sure she just can't imagine why anyone wouldn't want to use the service.I have said no sooo many times that I feel that she doesn't believe that I could possibly mean it.I think she will be at the top of her game because she has it set in her mind that she will break all records.I have to admire her determination though.

IlliniGirl88 · ‎06-20-2010

I haven't read all the responses, but you HAVE to quit the excuses. I'd just tell her, "No, I'm not interested." You could then move the conversation to a more friend related topic. Perhaps getting together for lunch or coffee. What did you use to do together before her business started? I hope she sees your friendship as more important than her business. Good luck!