How do you get over an ex-husband?? - Page 9

KittyLouSoutenu · ‎02-15-2015

On 2/18/2015 momtodogs said:
...he is using you in a sense...calling and seeing you thru the week and has the new girl on the weekends, he has the best of both worlds...he's no dummy, I would be friendly but not communicate with him except for issues with the kids.

He might have the same issue as OP does regarding spending time alone.

brewhaha · ‎07-25-2010

With the pizza delivery boy. It's the best of both worlds. You get pizza and a young boy.

KittyLouSoutenu · ‎02-15-2015

On 2/18/2015 brewhaha said:
With the pizza delivery boy. It's the best of both worlds. You get pizza and a young boy.

Ew.

ShowMe · ‎09-06-2010

Quit seeing the man......

Remember, it's not your kitchen any more.

The only thing you probably have in common is your grown children......so why continue to want to see someone that has cheated on you 3 times........

Sounds like there are some control issues going on with each of you.

Let go of him......not worth it.

raven-blackbird · ‎06-03-2010

okay, this is probably gonna make some people mad, but hey not the first time for me

you're lazy, and complacent.........sorry but you are.........being with your X is comfortable, you know what to expect, you're not risking anything..........you have the best of both worlds and so does he........you just want it a little more your world and less his.

Want to get over him, what's the best way............get off your butt and get out in the world.......it's not coming to you, you have to go out there and meet it.......................raven

We're not in Kansas anymore ToTo

pood1 · ‎03-10-2010

For crying out loud, first STOP going out to dinner, shopping, etc with him!

Your kids are grown, so you can't use them as an excuse to see him.

Join clubs, meet new single people, get a part time job-do something.

He's an ex for a reason-he has no friends to do things with? Tough-let him wait til his GF is available..

I have to say, if I was his new GF I wouldn't be too happy with him going out with you.....

NoelSeven · ‎03-09-2010

You haven't moved on by getting a life separate from him.

Start seeing more of your friends and perhaps start dating. Join groups that interest you, you need to meet new people and establish your own identity.

A Thrill Of Hope The Weary World Rejoices

KittyLouSoutenu · ‎02-15-2015

On 2/18/2015 pood said:
For crying out loud, first STOP going out to dinner, shopping, etc with him!

Your kids are grown, so you can't use them as an excuse to see him.

Join clubs, meet new single people, get a part time job-do something.

He's an ex for a reason-he has no friends to do things with? Tough-let him wait til his GF is available..

I have to say, if I was his new GF I wouldn't be too happy with him going out with you.....

I wonder if GF even knows that he's spending time with his Ex.

pood1 · ‎03-10-2010

Oh boy....then I'd REALLY be p***ed, if I ever found out.

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

It sounds like your ex wanted an open marriage and you didn't so you divorced him. However, in a sense you never let go and are giving him the best of both worlds. A nice woman who bore his kids and is someone he "likes" and the freedom to sow his wild oats.

You need to set boundaries. Why did you bother to divorce this guy, if you continue to talk to him daily and share meals with him?

You need to move on and if you want companionship find it with someone else. Perhaps meet someone through a friend or join a dating service. I have two friends who married really great guys through one of them. You deserve to be loved, not used.