How do you feel about this? - Page 2

magicmoodz · ‎03-16-2010

I don't think for obvious reasons that is a comforting statement to make to someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one. But philosophically speaking, yes, I agree with that statement.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

For many, I do believe it's their time to pass on into the next life.

For others, hard as it may seem, it's also hard to accept - i.e. those that died in the towers on 9-11.

Never Forget the Native American Indian Holocaust

SilleeMee · ‎05-22-2016

If a person is murdered...to me this is not ever the time to die.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

I believe there is no doubt a mathematical equation that could figure out just about when you will die barring freak accidents.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

@blackhole99 wrote:
I believe there is no doubt a mathematical equation that could figure out just about when you will die barring freak accidents.

Isn't this known as actuarialism?

Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

@goldensrbest wrote:
When a person dies, it was their time to do so.

I am not really sure.

I do believe there are a lot of circumstances in effect that can cause death when someone didn't have to die.

If someone dies of natural causes it might be true that it was just their time.

Jaspersmom · ‎06-08-2011

@goldensrbest wrote:
When a person dies, it was their time to do so.

I do believe when it's your time, it's your time because I believe in something bigger than all of us. HOWEVER, I would never say something like that to a grieving family member. What I do say is, "No matter how old or young a person is, losing them is painful for those of us who are left behind." Loss is loss. We can cry just as much about losing grandma who was 100 as someone who was young. Don't get me wrong, it is horrible when someone young dies and the pain is great because we thought we had so much more time with that person. But when someone older dies, it is an end of an era. I was deeply saddened when I lost my grandmother even though she had lived a relatively long life.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@granny me wrote:
Yes as a bible believer it says in Ecclesiastes 3:2 a time to be born and a time to die. I believe our dates are predetermined. It doesn't mean I walk out into traffic believing if it isn't my day I won't die, but I do believe just as our time to be born is known so is the time to die.

Hence the problem when looking at it from a biblical point of view.

If our time is marked, why should we do anything to protect our life? Why eat smart or keep our weight under control? Why not take every risk that suits our fancy?

I have been told by religion all my life that it is predestined. I just really struggle with whether I believe it is or not.

I question that 'a time to...' might mean there is a time, but is it written in stone? Is it 'chosen' in advance, or is it something that a deity decides at any given time in our existence?

Great topic, and one I struggle with!

granny me · ‎09-05-2014

I didn't realize the question was would you say this to a grieving person. Of course not, who would say such thing? But for myself, my beliefs, I believe when it's your time it's time. There is no menu from which to choose on how we go, if there were wouldn't we all choose just to go to sleep?

Teddie · ‎03-10-2010

Shortly after I lost my dad, I sat at my table with a friend and I was hurting so much and crying. She said every possible cliche you can imagine. Even though I knew she meant well, everything she said hurt me more and I couldn't stop crying. How about just sit with me and tell me how sorry you are? That's all I wanted.

The friendship also died and we no longer see each other. But I've always hated the pat answers some give in trying to make someone feel better.