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[software]

If I understand correctly, the obnoxious one sent an inappropriate email to YOUR employee.   I'd talk to the obnoxious one's supervisor first.

Let HER super deal with it.    Talk to your own employee

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@Tink814 wrote:

I work with someone who has a very abrasive personality. She is incredibly negative and blows everything out of proportion. She recently sent a rude email to someone making something seem far worse than it actually is. Sending this email was overstepping her boundaries and is not part of her job description, but what's done is done and I am trying to do damage control now. What would be the best way to tell this person (the one who received the email) that my coworker is negative and dramatic? Keep in mind that there is the possibility that this could get back to her and I really do not want to deal with her sarcasm or attitude.

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[cherry]

oops sorry wrong poster

[Yardlie]

Are you the supervisor of these women since you're trying to do damage control? It sounds like you're trying to stay on the good side of both women...and the only way that is possible is to just stay out of it. It you're the supervisor, then I would let the abrasive personality know that she has overstepped her boundaries. Otherwise, mums the word.

[Yardlie]

Occasional Rain, I think your boss was a weakling. Doesn't sound like an effective manager.

[TeezNu]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

I'm  sure there are untruthful posters who have thousands of posts and truthful posters with only a few. So I'll share a personal experience. Years ago I worked in a small office with one coworker. Neither of us were the supervisor of the other. One day the owner of the business told me that my coworker had caused a problem with a client and for me to fix it. 

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Well said.

True, or not, some of us can learn from the responses.

[IMissSuperPoke]

If the letter writer is a bully, I suggest you both go to HR and file a complaint.

[suzyQ3]

You've received excellent advice so far, but I'll just remind you to document, document, and then document some more.

@occasionalrain, this boss who told you to take care of a problem that involved your only coworker sounds as if he or she had no business being an employer. Not only is it shirking an employer's duty, but it also creates a potentially horrible working environment thereafter.

[NYC Susan]

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

You've received excellent advice so far, but I'll just remind you to document, document, and then document some more.

@occasionalrain, this boss who told you to take care of a problem that involved your only coworker sounds as if he or she had no business being an employer. Not only is it shirking an employer's duty, but it also creates a potentially horrible working environment thereafter.

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I agree.  Terrible management skills!  That's clearly part of his job, not hers.

[occasionalrain]

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@Brinklii wrote:

Occasional Rain, I think your boss was a weakling. Doesn't sound like an effective manager.

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No, he was good at delegating. I was a consultant, problem solver. He didn't micromanage which I liked, had several businesses, only stopped by the office occasionally but phoned in every day. I liked him, nice to look at too.

[Q4u]

Someone up thread mentioned getting this woman and the recipient of the email together with you and possibly an HR employee.  If this woman's behavior is over the top this would be a great opportunity to provide her with this information and what is expected of her in your work environment.  If I understand correcly, your boss has left this up to you...?  I'd see it as an opportunity to clear the air with the email recipient as well as defining what you expect from this lady going forward....