How do I politely say this?

Tink814 · ‎10-03-2011

I work with someone who has a very abrasive personality. She is incredibly negative and blows everything out of proportion. She recently sent a rude email to someone making something seem far worse than it actually is. Sending this email was overstepping her boundaries and is not part of her job description, but what's done is done and I am trying to do damage control now. What would be the best way to tell this person (the one who received the email) that my coworker is negative and dramatic? Keep in mind that there is the possibility that this could get back to her and I really do not want to deal with her sarcasm or attitude.

Goldengate8361 · ‎01-27-2014

Why is it necessary to get involved? If you must say something, your words should suffice ("negative and dramatic").

MyGirlsMom · ‎03-09-2010

Unless you are a Supervisor or Manager of one or both employees, stay out of it.

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KentuckyWoman · ‎03-13-2010

Why would you want to get dragged into this woman's drama? It could very easily backfire and you could get in trouble. My mother told me a long time ago if you stir in poo you will get it on you and stink to the high heavens. Unless you are the rude e-mail senders supervisor, don't get involved.

Tink814 · ‎10-03-2011

I am getting involved because I am above my coworker and I have to.

JaneMarple · ‎05-23-2011

@Tink814 wrote:
I am getting involved because I am above my coworker and I have to.

Since you have to get involved, set up a meeting with the two individuals and another person who is also "above" them so there won't be any misunderstandings when you tell the the abusive co-worker that her behavior will not be tolerated!

You Don't Own Me- Leslie Gore
(You don't Know) How Glad I Am- Nancy Wilson

MyGirlsMom · ‎03-09-2010

"above her" as in Supervisor or Manager?

If she is a real problem, take it to Personnel.

Keep Your Face To The Sunshine and You Will Not See The Shadow

MyGirlsMom · ‎03-09-2010

O/T

Is school out already for Thanksgiving?

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occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Not knowing what happened and what was in the email makes advising rather difficult. However do not say anything about your coworker's personality being negative. It will make you look bad. Tell the recipient of the email that it was a misunderstanding and apologize.

KentuckyWoman · ‎03-13-2010

What does the term "above" mean? Are you her supervisor or manager and does she report directly to you? If so, I would talk to her with an HR representative present. That is the policy where I work. Good luck.