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How Soon Before Baby is Born Should You Give A Gift? Opinions Please

A little history.  I do not believe in baby showers....I did not want one with any of my three children and if someone gave me a gift I put it in a closet without opening it.  Superstitious??  Yes unfortunately.  I will however go to baby showers and my DD had one.

 

We are meeting a couple who is very close to us for dinner next weekend.  They are expecting their first, a boy.  I wanted to get them a little something to give when we saw them so I ordered IZOD crib shoes

 

They are only 20 weeks and now I am hesitant....

 

Do you give gifts early....before the shower?

 

TIA for opinions

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Re: How Soon Before Baby is Born Should You Give A Gift? Opinions Please

wait until the kid arrives

 

 

 

also crib shoes?  why do they need shoes for the crib

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I too would wait until the baby arrives.  

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@LexPex wrote:

A little history.  I do not believe in baby showers....I did not want one with any of my three children and if someone gave me a gift I put it in a closet without opening it.  Superstitious??  Yes unfortunately.  I will however go to baby showers and my DD had one.

 

We are meeting a couple who is very close to us for dinner next weekend.  They are expecting their first, a boy.  I wanted to get them a little something to give when we saw them so I ordered IZOD crib shoes

 

They are only 20 weeks and now I am hesitant....

 

Do you give gifts early....before the shower?

 

TIA for opinions



@LexPex wrote:

A little history.  I do not believe in baby showers....I did not want one with any of my three children and if someone gave me a gift I put it in a closet without opening it.  Superstitious??  Yes unfortunately.  I will however go to baby showers and my DD had one.

 

We are meeting a couple who is very close to us for dinner next weekend.  They are expecting their first, a boy.  I wanted to get them a little something to give when we saw them so I ordered IZOD crib shoes

 

They are only 20 weeks and now I am hesitant....

 

Do you give gifts early....before the shower?

 

TIA for opinions



@LexPex wrote:

A little history.  I do not believe in baby showers....I did not want one with any of my three children and if someone gave me a gift I put it in a closet without opening it.  Superstitious??  Yes unfortunately.  I will however go to baby showers and my DD had one.

 

We are meeting a couple who is very close to us for dinner next weekend.  They are expecting their first, a boy.  I wanted to get them a little something to give when we saw them so I ordered IZOD crib shoes

 

They are only 20 weeks and now I am hesitant....

 

Do you give gifts early....before the shower?

 

TIA for opinions


Yes I give a gift before the baby is born, many couples have gift registries to choose from or if you're a good listener you can pretty much figure out what they like through conversation. Both my mother and mother in law were superstitious about giving gifts before a baby was born.

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Re: How Soon Before Baby is Born Should You Give A Gift? Opinions Please

I would wait until the shower or after the baby is born🐣

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If they have a shower but you choose not to go, you can give them a gift after the shower but if there is no shower....wait until the baby arrives.  If you must do something now, send a lovely bouquet of blue flowers.

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I think it's just too early for a gift at this point. I would wait until the shower or when you go to visit bring the gift then.

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Have I been living under a rock???  I have never heard of this before...not giving gifts before a shower or the baby is born??  Is this in case they lose the baby?  I got a few gifts before my baby shower.  I didn't think anything of it, other than appreciative.

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@LexPex wrote:

A little history.  I do not believe in baby showers....I did not want one with any of my three children and if someone gave me a gift I put it in a closet without opening it.  Superstitious??  Yes unfortunately.  I will however go to baby showers and my DD had one.

 

We are meeting a couple who is very close to us for dinner next weekend.  They are expecting their first, a boy.  I wanted to get them a little something to give when we saw them so I ordered IZOD crib shoes

 

They are only 20 weeks and now I am hesitant....

 

Do you give gifts early....before the shower?

 

TIA for opinions


@LexPex - I have been to two showers in the past month - one DD's college roommate, and one family. Ordinarily I would agree that gifts should be saved for the shower.

 

HOWEVER since you are close to this couple, I think it's wonderful of you to want to give them a little something when you see them. The crib shoes sound precious! Smiley Happy

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I agree with the OP, I dislike everything about baby showers, gender reveal parties are even worse. I wouldn't give a gift prior to the baby's birthday.