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[Kachina624]

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@Preds wrote:

I wish you would have told my DD that @mstyrion 1!  LOL  Outdoor formal wedding planned for July.  I'm melting just thinking about it.

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On a breezy Caribbean Island?

[Preds]

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@Kachina624 wrote:

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@Preds wrote:

I wish you would have told my DD that @mstyrion 1!  LOL  Outdoor formal wedding planned for July.  I'm melting just thinking about it.

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On a breezy Caribbean Island?

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Oh, how I wish!  Hot, humid, Nashville.

[violann]

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@NiteStar wrote:

It's the bride and groom's wedding, so they should have it at whatever venue they prefer (it's their day).  While it's not my cup of tea, I would attend a wedding in the desert for a loved one or close friend.

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Because I am OLD and have seen and attended a LOT of weddings over my whole life, I'm going to have to disagree with you on this point, @NiteStar. Weddings USED to be FAMILY EVENTS. 

This concept that the bride and groom deserve or should have exactly what they want TO THE EXCLUSION OF EVERYONE AND ANYONE ELSE, can often result in sad and painful occasions in which those who love the bride and groom most are marginalized or totally excluded.

If everyone is supposed to lope over the tumbling tumbleweeds through sand, blistering heat, and other such obstacles OR take a plane to some remote island OR any of a number of similarly "unique" sites selected for the whim of the b and g, who gets left out?

Grandma, who changed groom's diapers from when he was born, and/or cousin Dennis, who is visually limited and wears braces on his legs but worshipped his bride cousin as a big sister, and/or bride and groom's college buddy who introduced them and has severe allergies and a few small children, etcetcetcetcetc......

And then, do bride and groom expect their families to pay for the event that is going to hurt feelings and omit special loved ones?

I was a grownup paying for half of my own wedding. We wanted a brunch reception. My mother wanted guests to have a decent meal.

We did what my mom wanted. It was FABULOUS! ALL the people we loved were there, ceremony and reception were WONDERFUL, no hurt feelings.

FAMILY!!!! Without family, you have NOTHING!!!!!

[RedTop]

I am not a fan of attending weddings period, so I don't.  Anyone who knows me, knows I don't like to be outside, so you would never find me at an outdoor wedding.   

[GingerPeach]

Was this a news or magazine story, @Kachina624?

I mean, it would be very different having a wedding in the middle of "nowhere" to a wedding planned for a non-harsh time of year and close enough to other facilities.

Here's one in the Tucson area of the wedding of the site director of The Knot website.  It was in spring.

https://www.theknot.com/real-weddings/a-romantic-desert-wedding-in-tucson-az-album

[RainyDayGal]

There's desert and then there's desert.  The ones with cactus and hills and beautiful views, while a desert is not the same as nothing but 200 degrees and sand drifts.  Big difference between the two.

[Kachina624]

@GingerPeach  The story about the popularity of desert weddings came from the News 360 News service.

Just North of Albuquerque on an Indian Pueblo is a posh resort/golf course/casino...sort of "tamed desert" that borders on the Rio Grande.  The area along the river is called the Bosque and is heavily wooded with cottonwoods. They have beautiful weddings there, catered by the hotel, with the Sandia Mountains in the background.

[GingerPeach]

Thanks for the info.

A few years ago I was very interested in an over-55 community along the Bosque, @Kachina624  It's called Alegria.