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[patbz]

Before I married I had a long, multi syllabi German name; always dreamed of marrying someone with a simple last name.  When I married, his name was long, multi syllabi Polish name (worse to spell, pronounce than my maiden name). We married in the 1980s when hyphenated names were first popular.  We would never do that, especially with a limited number of spaces on some computerized forms.  If we had hyphenated, my last name would be 22 spaces and last name has several "cz"s in it ( it's bad enough getting that right over the phone (" C as in Cat, Z as in Zebra"). I sign with abbreviated first name, middle initial and married last name.

[haddon9]

I've never used "Mrs." and I've been married for 38 years.  I did take my husband's last name since I like it much better than my maiden name.

Using "Mrs" is just too old fashioned and formal to me.

[speedy girl]

I've always just signed my first name and last name (which is my married name)

But I did grow up with always calling my friends Mom's , Mrs. Smith or whatever her last name was. I would have never called them by their first names. I kinda miss that these days. 

[Lindsays Grandma]

I was married more than once, however, I have never put Mrs. before my name, it was always Elizabeth S. XXXXX.  

[tototwo]

First name, last name.  That's it.

[GoneButNotForgotten]

with a pen or pencil

[GoneButNotForgotten]

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@speedy girl wrote:

I've always just signed my first name and last name (which is my married name)

But I did grow up with always calling my friends Mom's , Mrs. Smith or whatever her last name was. I would have never called them by their first names. I kinda miss that these days. 

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speedy_girl, I do too. When my son came along and we socialized with a lot of families that also had young children. Most of them (the kids) first-named me; their parents would say, "this is ______". I didn't like it but what could I do--say, "No, it's Mrs. _______". That wasn't a hill I thought was worth dying on.

But I didn't like it then and I don't like it now.

[shoekitty]

I worked in a museum.  I often had to do research in old newspapers.  When researching births back in the 1800's, and up until the early 70's  it was hard necause women always went by Mrs.  so maddening.  A birth would say, born to Mr and Mrs John Smith, a boy.   It was okay if you were looking for a man.  But if someone wanted to so research that included the female side of family, it was a stab in the dark.  Never was the womans first name mentioned in anyrhing the newspapers printed

i use my first name and married last name.  When I had a career in a certain field, I used my maden last name as my middle name, with a hyphen.  A bit pretentious, lol. However, sincemy firstname and last name are so long,  the last 20 years I have just gone by,  first name initial, then last name.  Saves time.. our checks areprinted with both our names first, andlast.

[CJC]

I was born in the 40's. Back then, through the early 60's, women used metal charge-a-plates to shop. I still have my grandmother's charge plate. The names on the plates were Mrs. John Doe, never the wife's first name. Majority of wives did not work so were  not eligible for a line of credit. DH and I built a house in 1970. I was a fully employed teacher with a Masters. When we secured our loan at the bank the bank associate was interested only in my husband's income. When I mentioned that I also worked and had a good income he replied that my income didn't count because women always quit working. That's just the way it was some 50 years ago. 

[Cakers3]

Let's not forget young male children traditionally were addressed as "Master".

Now it is "Mr." or just their names.