How Do You Feel When a Friend Constantly Corrects ... - Page 6

violann · ‎03-10-2010

People who are legitimately able to correct others rarely do so, in my experience.
It is people who have learned "something" and then want to show it off that are the most typical offenders.
On the SUBJECT of pronunciation, communication trumps "proper" pronunciation.
Unless eriudite FRIEND thought that the person who cleaned your teeth was the local hog bather, you're OK.
Ignore or seek out more interesting friends.

rhinovodka · ‎07-29-2013

I pronounce lots of words differently due to my hillbilly roots. Now that I live in the city, I have tried to assimilate and pronounce words "correctly" but sometimes that does not always work. I put these pronunciation specialists in the same category as the grammar police, annoying and I would choose to ignore her. As long as the meaning can be understood, there should not be a problem. People need to worry more about being kinder to one another than always being "right".

AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

She may have a disorder and can't help herself. The sound of a word being pronounced incorrectly may really physically bother her. Just a thought.

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@tansy wrote:
OT but some of the worst days of my life were spent in court-reporting school.

*****

@suzyQ3 wrote:
@baker wrote:
@Burnsite wrote:
Is she a teacher? They are so used to correcting small mistakes that sometimes they can't switch it off. I have a distant relative like that who is otherwise basically the kindest person in the world, so I have always assumed this is an occupational hazard faced by teachers.

On the other hand, to share a correction is one thing but to say "I can't believe you didn't pronounce that right" is not friendly.
Yes, teachers are the worst for correcting others. My teacher husband would always correct me in front of others until I just went off on him one time and embarassed him. My husband never corrected me in front of others again.
A truly good teacher knows when it's appropriate to correct someone kindly and when it is just arrogant and uncalled for.

I taught grammar, word usage, punctuation, vocabulary, etc., for many years to adult students who wanted to pass a very rigorous state test to be court reporters. Humility served me well. I worked with them on their different levels and backgrounds and learned early on never, ever to humiliate them.

To this day, I can't abide those who think it's okay to do so. Those are the only people who deserve to be critiqued for their own errors.

Oh, tansy, I'm sorry to hear that. It really is a wonderful and potentially very lucrative profession. But it's certainly not for everyone, including me. I adored teaching English skills and still miss my students.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

CardinalGirl · ‎03-09-2010

It is never polite to correct someone's pronunciation or grammar in a social setting. I think you should gently talk to her about it--in private. I would also do it soon and not wait until the situation happens again.