House guests - Page 4

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

Thankfully, it's not normal for me. If it works for others, I say - more power to ya! But manners are VERY important to me and showing up at somebody's house out of the blue, or uninvited, would be massively verboten.

You're probably used to it by now. I don't think I could get used to that kind of thing. I suppose, since you said that your quandry has been solved, that you already know what you're going to do so I'm glad for that.

fortune · ‎03-14-2010

Communication seems to be a problem all-around here. First, you and your husband need to talk and come to an agreement that is suitable to both of you. He can visit with family members out of a hotel if need be.

Next, set up a schedule of exact arrival and departure times for each of your guests. You need to know this so you can be home for their visit (!!)

Start 2016 with a resolution to let everyone know exactly how you feel. Keeping things bottled up (anger) is one of the causes of depression.

Happy New Year! Cheers to a great 2016!

DoneTryin · ‎03-09-2010

I received a holiday greetings email last month from friends who announced they moved to another state. They stated that they don't have a guest room but would be happy to provide names & phone number for nearby hotels/motels, & also reminded everyone of a popular camping area. That made it quite clear to me that while they'd be happy to see me if I visit their new city, it's up to me to make my own arrangements for a place to stay while I'm there.

denisemb · ‎12-07-2012

@fortune wrote:
Communication seems to be a problem all-around here. First, you and your husband need to talk and come to an agreement that is suitable to both of you. He can visit with family members out of a hotel if need be.

Next, set up a schedule of exact arrival and departure times for each of your guests. You need to know this so you can be home for their visit (!!)

Start 2016 with a resolution to let everyone know exactly how you feel. Keeping things bottled up (anger) is one of the causes of depression.

Happy New Year! Cheers to a great 2016!

@fortune I should have been more clear - this is MY family not husband's: MY brother and SIL is his wife. I'd mentioned to him that brother "Bob" might be coming, too and guess that he assumed that I knew "Bob" was coming when he made the gracious offer to clean out our third sofabed bedroom.

Luckily, the others in our family and friends believe in "making plans", this is just the one family with which we have problems.

Denise

Tantallum · ‎02-16-2011

I do not think this is normal whatsoever.

If it were me, I would call them and say that you are extremely busy this year and if they are going to be in FL you would be happy to provide them with a list of affordable hotels, and that you'd love to have them over for dinner ONE night.

Don't let them take advantage of you. I can't imagine doing this to one of my relatives (or anyone for that matter!)

Hayfield · ‎03-10-2010

If they can afford to be on a cruise for 3 weeks, they can afford a hotel for a day or two. I live 20 miles south of Washington, DC and I've had company over the last 37 years I've lived here and my family & friends have come but have never, ever taken advantage of me. Maybe I'm just lucky. I also know people who now live near the ocean and I don't take advantage of them. I have a good friend that has a condo in Flordia and has told me many times I can use it whenever I want since they only spend about 3 months a year in it. I haven't used it yet. What makes anyone think they can just come and park themselves in someone's house, not let you know when they're coming and when they're going? I still believe the only way you can be taken advantage of is if you let someone take advantage of you.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

This is NOT normal. If it helps, just make a blanket rule that you and hubs are now "too old" to have overnight guests and provide a list of motels in the area. You would be happy to meet for lunch, blah, blah.