Honey???Dear???? - Page 9

PamfromCT · ‎05-22-2014

Maybe it is just me. Others have noticed there is so much complaining now here. I offered a cute story about my GS. And it got bleeped. I give up. Really.

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

Does not bother me one bit

VanSleepy · ‎10-05-2010

I don't like it at all. But I don't have a chip on my shoulder or let it ruin my day, and I am not a crab - usually.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

@Jazzygurl wrote:
@Drythe wrote:

It makes me happy, one thing not lost from the south, in my state, NC, only 47% of adults are from the south....help...glub...glib. Being over run.

Doesn’tt bother me any more than Youz Guyz
So are you saying you don't really care for newcomers to your state. Maybe those who are coming fell in love with some of the southern charm.

@Jazzygurl

Wow, I thought I was clear. I don’t care for the newcomers who treat us as though the turnip truck they think we fell off of ran over our heads.

Complaining about the accent, the heat, the driving, the food, how slow things are, the Traditions, the music, etc. ad nauseum while enjoying the 4 seasons, low taxes, relatively low cost of housing, good jobs, and higher education is not endearing.

Just look at the words used around this topic - sleazy, highly educated - meaning the folks who use the words are not, well traveled - ditto.

Y’alll have a good day now Ya hear?

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

colliemom4 · ‎09-08-2010

It doen't bother me at all.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

I'm not at the age when people use that those terms with me. I'm also not the type of person that people I deal with professionally would be overly familiar with. They tend to do it with elderly people and I think it's inappropriate and disresectful. Some people don't notice or don't mind, I suspect some might even like it. My mom certainly did not and she never hesitated to politely but firmly correct people. "My name is Mrs. Smith, I'm not your honey!".

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

It depends on how it’s said and the context. But normally, it doesn’t and I find myself doing it too at times.

Perkup · ‎03-09-2010

@Carmie wrote:
@Hooty wrote:
LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you! I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!
It is not a sign of respect in the northeast. When someone says it to you, they are being snarky, especially if they are younger than you. It's a term used to put you in your place or show superiority over you.

Have to say this . . . . I'm from the South - lived here most of my life - except for the years I spent in Connecticut. I believe you would call that the Northeast? Believe me, no one ever said anything to me that was either snarky or meant to be disrespectful. Everyone was lovely, thoughtful and very respectful. Nicer people you couldn't hope to meet. They used a number of different terms of endearment at times, but never in a rude or hateful way. And You Guys was always perfectly acceptable to me. Why would anyone be offended by a few well meaning words? Overwhelmed by ego I suspect. Perhaps a bit too concerned about the chip on the shoulder?

Hooty · ‎03-09-2010

@Carmie wrote:
@Hooty wrote:
LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you! I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!
It is not a sign of respect in the northeast. When someone says it to you, they are being snarky, especially if they are younger than you. It's a term used to put you in your place or show superiority over you.

@Carmie , I was born and raised in the South, but my DH was military and I have lived in other parts of the US, especially mid-Atlantic area, and it was never a problem!

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@Hooty wrote:
@Carmie wrote:
@Hooty wrote:
LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you! I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!
It is not a sign of respect in the northeast. When someone says it to you, they are being snarky, especially if they are younger than you. It's a term used to put you in your place or show superiority over you.
@Carmie , I was born and raised in the South, but my DH was military and I have lived in other parts of the US, especially mid-Atlantic area, and it was never a problem!

It's not a problem here either because very few people use those terms. It is not considered polite to do so.

When we hear it, it is usually said in a negative way. Example " Look here, honey, what do you think you are going". Or..when you are told to do something and reply " yes, dear"

Sometimes older folks will call a younger person honey, but a younger person calling an older person honey is a no-no.

It's really amazing how things are so different depending on where you live.