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[Jazzygurl]

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@Drythe wrote:

It makes me happy, one thing not lost from the south, in my state, NC, only 47% of adults are from the south....help...glub...glib.  Being over run.

Doesn’t bother me any more than Youz Guyz

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So are you saying you don't really care for newcomers to your state.  Maybe those who are coming fell in love with some of the southern charm.  

[Marp]

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Hooty wrote:

LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you!  I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!

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I am not from the south, but I know when someone says " Bless your heart" down south, they are not being kind to you.  It's supposed polite way, of keeping ones mouth shut instead of saying something else.

i would not be thrilled if someone said that to me either.

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@Carmie   When someone down south says "Bless you heart" it can also be compassionate and empathetic similar to "poor dear" used in other regions of the country.  Tone and context is everything with bless your heart.  Now if someone says "bless your pea picking heart"...

[QueenDanceALot]

Doesn't bother me at all unless it comes from someone creepy who is looking for something from me.

[Mj12]

Does not bother me in the situations described in the OP.  

This morning at breakfast, the waitress called me “sweet pea”. Don’t hear that one every day but didn’t bother me at all.

[geezerette]

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@Marp wrote:

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Hooty wrote:

LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you!  I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!

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I am not from the south, but I know when someone says " Bless your heart" down south, they are not being kind to you.  It's supposed polite way, of keeping ones mouth shut instead of saying something else.

i would not be thrilled if someone said that to me either.

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@Carmie   When someone down south says "Bless you heart" it can also be compassionate and empathetic similar to "poor dear" used in other regions of the country.  Tone and context is everything with bless your heart.  Now if someone says "bless your pea picking heart"...

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@Marp 

Tennessee Ernie Ford!  Loved him! 🥰😄

[Carmie]

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@Ms tyrion2 wrote:

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@Carmie wrote:

@Ms tyrion2   Yeah, I wrote post #31.    It said people could be looking for a fight.  It does not say they are looking for a fight.

They probably would get the "look". No one actually fights...it's an expression.  And you already know that.

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...but yet you accused Cakers of exaggerating. 

Look, you can't always be right @Carmie .

You exaggerated to make a point and so did she.  Let's call it even.

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I am not always right.  Only once I thought I was wrong, but I wasn't.  That was my mistake!  

[pigletsmom]

It takes a lot to offend me and this wouldn't be one of the things. My practice is to assume that people have good intentions. I find it much easier to move through life that way.

As I've said before you actually have to TAKE offense and really what's the point if the person didn't have bad intentions. Plenty of annoying things in the world, no need to get worked up over someone trying to be nice.

[Cakers3]

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@Mj12 wrote:

Does not bother me in the situations described in the OP.  

This morning at breakfast, the waitress called me “sweet pea”. Don’t hear that one every day but didn’t bother me at all.

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@Mj12   Now I have that song "Oh Sweet Pea" by Tommy Roe running through my brain.

[Carmie]

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@Marp wrote:

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@Carmie wrote:

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@Hooty wrote:

LOL, this is the most ridiculous post, complaining because someone is being respectable to you!  I am from the South too, and it is a form of courtesy here, Bless your heart, Honey, LOL!!!

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I am not from the south, but I know when someone says " Bless your heart" down south, they are not being kind to you.  It's supposed polite way, of keeping ones mouth shut instead of saying something else.

i would not be thrilled if someone said that to me either.

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@Carmie   When someone down south says "Bless you heart" it can also be compassionate and empathetic similar to "poor dear" used in other regions of the country.  Tone and context is everything with bless your heart.  Now if someone says "bless your pea picking heart"...

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LOL. I would think they were quoting Tennessee Ernie Ford.

[Cats3000]

When we moved to the south, all kinds of sales people, waitstaff, etc. would call us "Honey" or "Dear".  First time was a little "offputting".  Second time, no problems.