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@butterfly123 wrote:

@feline groovy

3 helpers sent your way 😊😊😊 see previous posts

Send them to @OKPrincess to train her helpers. 

@OKPrincess, send helpers back to @feline groovy when your helpers are trained. 

That was exhausting....Good night.

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@butterfly123:  

two feline assistants for you   8)

[feline groovy]

[butterfly123]

@feline groovy

Thank you for the kitty helpers 😊

[Mominohio]

These kinds of 'studies' need to be taken with a grain of salt. If the researchers are relying on people to provide them with the amount of time spent doing things, it may or may not be accurate. If they are actually studying the daily activities of participants, they are likely not behaving 'normally', because they are being watched closely.

My take away is that even with supposedly more help, women still are spending the same amount of time on 'work' in the home.

Why? Would be my question.

People buying bigger houses, therefore more work?

People really not into the 'less is more' mantra they want us to believe everyone young is living by. In fact do they have more stuff, and it takes more time to deal with it?

Could it be that even with men doing more which should create more 'free' time for women, it does give them more time, but they just use that time to do more household/child centered things, because they either want to, or because they weren't getting it all done in the past with the less help anyway?

[occasionalrain]

If men are expected to take on chores traditionally done by women then women should be taking on chores traditionally done by men. 

Personally, I find mommy men unappealing, especially those wearing babies in those carriers.

[viva923]

my husband is still working full time. I am a stay at home homemaker still working full time keeping this house clean. do cleaning of house weekly. each day I do certain parts of the house (ex.monday I do back part of house--Tues is sheet day and bathrooms day--Wed is living room , master bedroom and so forth). there are days I seem to be cleaning more hours and longer. this is just for the 2 of us. our kids are long grown and gone. DH hates housework, so I rarely ask him to help.  I have no cleaning service come and help, just don't want anyone I don't know in my house helping me clean. Am always leary about this type of help. Just a thing I have. 

[libbyannE]

Glad my husband and I never subscribed to old gender stereotypes when it comes to chores, careers, etc. We both had long and successful careers. At home, we do what we each like to do. We both mow, I power washed and stained the house by myself, simply because I wanted to, he is better at vacuuming and scrubbing the baths, and he likes washing cars, which he collects. We both cook when we're in the mood. Sorry to say that we're equally bad at organization. 

[this is my nic]

Interesting topic!

We used to have the traditional male and female tasks.  I was a stay at home mom, but did have some part time salaried jobs.  My husband  worked full time and did things like yard work, painting, working on cars when that was still possible.  I did the housework, laundry, cooking, and child care.  I often tried to help him, but was always told I was doing it wrong.  So, he painted by himself.  He had gone out of the country on business and I had to take over mowing the lawn. When he came home he told me I missed a lot of places  and to forget about doing the mowing.  I forgot.  The last straw was when I was sweeping out the garage and he told me I was doing it wrong!  I put the broom down and never did it again!  

[lovesrecess]

I agree it is very different now because so many more women/mothers work outside the home. We are both now retired, but when I was working full-time, I still did most of the housework....except folding laundry. DH loves doing it and every piece of clothing looks like origami when he is finished with it.....I end up with t shirts folded like swans and socks like frogs,  so I let him go at it! He attempts to cook but destroys the kitchen and cleaning it up means I have to re-clean it after he does.....he has not figured out how to work the new washer and dryer yet....but just folding the clothes is enough for me....he empties the dishwasher but I load it because I am OCD about how it must be loaded for washing....lol

[pigletsmom]

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@this is my nic wrote:

Interesting topic!

We used to have the traditional male and female tasks.  I was a stay at home mom, but did have some part time salaried jobs.  My husband  worked full time and did things like yard work, painting, working on cars when that was still possible.  I did the housework, laundry, cooking, and child care.  I often tried to help him, but was always told I was doing it wrong.  So, he painted by himself.  He had gone out of the country on business and I had to take over mowing the lawn. When he came home he told me I missed a lot of places  and to forget about doing the mowing.  I forgot.  The last straw was when I was sweeping out the garage and he told me I was doing it wrong!  I put the broom down and never did it again!  

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This is interesting because I think it also explains the stats in this story. Men are doing more but somehow women are also doing more. I'd argue because they re-do the stuff their husband did because it wasn't done "right".

I think women can be really tough when it comes to this stuff. Didn't make the bed right, fold clothes right, mop the floor right.