Holiday Gift Cards for Family - Page 2

kate2357 · ‎02-26-2012

Many years ago at a meeting with dh's family, the adults decided we didn't need to share Christmas gifts with each other, and gifts for each other's children could stop at 18.

Throughout the year we do bring each other tokens/gifts...but it's because we want to, not because we feel we have to. I will add, the parents made sure thank you notes, calls or texts were sent thanking the gift giver.

Now on my side of the family, none of the children acknowledge gifts. It is rude and I don't know why my sister has been so lax. I do family gifts now and send via my sister, just so I know the gift was received.

.

"What we practice daily is what we build a life on. Practice peace, love & kindness."

GingerHead · ‎03-10-2010

@Mersha

I know, right ?!

That's what I thought....really rude

"We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals" -Immanuel Kant

"Once you have had a wonderful Dog, a life without one, is a life diminished"-Dean Koontz

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

Your husband is right, it's time to quit.

We stopped the niece and nephew gifting years ago. One sister included us in her family gathering last year so we brought token gifts for everyone. Individual gifts for the great nieces and nephews and couples gifts for my nieces and nephew (all are married), and the same gift for my sister. They thanked us. We didnt receive any gifts but we didn't expect to. We're going back this year and I've bought gifts for all again. If we weren't attending we wouldn't be buying any gifts for them.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

I send nice cards to our siblings. I continue to gift to my only nephew since we are close, and he does nice things for my mom.

We remembered my husbands nieces and nephews on their birthdays and at Christmas until they finished high school, even tho we never saw or heard from them. We stopped the cash flow and still never see or hear from them, nor do we gift to their children.

simplyfriends · ‎12-24-2010

If I sent a gift/gift card to a family member and they didn't send a thank you I would reach out to them and say "hey, I just wanted to make sure you received the gift card I sent. I didn't hear from you and want to make sure it wasn't lost".

edited to fix typo

LTT1 · ‎03-09-2010

@jackthebear

This is a simple solution!

One year my SIL (many years ago) said it would be difficult for their family (6 people) to afford to buy our family (3 people) gifts at Christmas.

While I was doing the "happy dance" I suggested all the adults just give the children (they were still little) gifts.
Thst idea worked for quite a few years.

It gets complicated...that's why I like @jackthebear 's answer best!

~Have a Kind Heart, Fierce Mind, Brave Spirit~

jackthebear · ‎03-11-2010

@LTT1 wrote:
@jackthebear

This is a simple solution!

One year my SIL (many years ago) said it would be difficult for their family (6 people) to afford to buy our family (3 people) gifts at Christmas.
While I was doing the "happy dance" I suggested all the adults just give the children (they were still little) gifts.
Thst idea worked for quite a few years.
It gets complicated...that's why I like @jackthebear 's answer best!

dollars to doughnuts everyone is asking the same question

on the bay · ‎03-09-2010

I will never understand why anyone can't at least say they received a present or gift card.

Sometimes a busy life gets in the way but not for year after year.

What I do is ask if they got it and usually they say oh yes.

Then I'll keep sending for a few years but if never acknowledged, I'll maybe just send a card.

It only takes a few minutes or even seconds on a text to bring back a little joy to someone who gave a present.

"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"

ValuSkr · ‎03-15-2014

You don't have to get gifts - cards or otherwise - for nieces and nephews. We stopped doing that years ago, when they were high school age. While you're at it, now is also a good time to discontinue the gift exchange with siblings

elated · ‎06-09-2010

I just dislike the gift giving season. You feel obligated to give gifts even if you don't want to. I think Christmas has lost the true meaning. Everyone runs around like a chicken with their head cutoff trying to please everyone. I only give to my immediate family who has done so much for me. It just shows appreciation.

I heard on the radio today, that this couple leaves water and a bag of chips on their porch for the delivery people. I thought that was very nice. Kindness does go very far.