Community Chat

[mousiegirl]

On 1/17/2015 reiki604 said: I don't hold grudges but I don't forget either. I believe when someone shows you who they are, you should believe them.

Exactly!

[dooBdoo]

On 1/17/2015 mousiegirl said:

On 1/17/2015 reiki604 said: I don't hold grudges but I don't forget either. I believe when someone shows you who they are, you should believe them.

Exactly!

I agree with that to an extent, but I've seen some people make major life changes, significant transformations, so I also believe in new chances for new beginnings.

[Sawn]

I forgive and forget, because we're all human, and therefore, under certain conditions, are perfectly capable of atrocious behavior. I know I feel humbled when someone forgives me and I try to treat people the way I would like to be treated .

[dooBdoo]

On 1/17/2015 Sawn said: I forgive and forget, because we're all human, and therefore, under certain conditions, are perfectly capable of atrocious behavior. I know I feel humbled when someone forgives me and I try to treat people the way I would like to be treated .

What a kind, gracious attitude you have, Sawn. I aspire to live that way but fall short most of the time.

[shoekitty]

Holding grudges and hatred forever can be like a cancerous growth. It will eat your life away and destroy the person you could be. However, letting go isn't easy and it has to come from the person who needs to let go.

I never confuse forgivng a person with having to like them. You can truly just give the hatred up, forgive the grudge, get on with your life. No one says you have to forget what happened or like the person. You can just forgive, walk away and loose them. I have had to this only once, thank God. And I have been forgiven of things I said. It is transforming moment to have a person say, Okay I forgive you. Doesn't mean we ever hung around with each other again, but it is a powerful moment/

I know someone who is the grugemeister of all time. They are not pleasant to be around. Always rehashing the grudge. The incidents happened like 20 years ago, and to her they are like yesterday. I feel bad for her. Her life is always drama, and it centers around something that happened years ago. It is as if she never moved into another day. To each their own. But I guess until we have walked in another shoes we never know how they feel.

[minkbunny]

On 1/17/2015 Sawn said: I forgive and forget, because we're all human, and therefore, under certain conditions, are perfectly capable of atrocious behavior. I know I feel humbled when someone forgives me and I try to treat people the way I would like to be treated .

Just lovely, Sawn. Good to "see" you.

[luvingit]

Pride

[Burnsite]

My thought is that not every situation is either/or. Very few situations are.

Either forgive or forget? Does one forgive abuse? Or forget it? One survives it with as little rancor as possible. One doesn't wish ill to other people. But when people have been toxic, it is dangerous to forget that they can be toxic.

[Topaz Gem]

When I learned to let go of old grudges, my life quickly headed in a very positive direction and is still going strong. It's amazing how grudges hold your dreams back from coming true. Once they're lifted, the blessings are free to flow and manifest in your life.

[cody2]

I am so forgetful that I rarely need to forgive.