Holding grudges or forgiving and forgetting? - Page 2

Qwackertoo · ‎03-11-2010

I can't ERASE something from my memory . . . but forgive and forget . . . I can & will do unless it involves murder or abuse of a family member . . . but just words, eh, I can get over that.

Clover29 · ‎03-09-2010

What's wrong with grudges? I like my grudges.

raven-blackbird · ‎06-03-2010

I don't think people necessarily forgive or forget........they just move on and with time forget...................................raven

We're not in Kansas anymore ToTo

ivanatrump · ‎06-26-2014

On 1/17/2015 raven-blackbird said:
I don't think people necessarily forgive or forget........they just move on and with time forget...................................raven

In real life yes but from what I've seen, not here.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

forgive, but NEVER forget.....move on, but keep a sharp eye out......

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LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

The worst is being caught in the middle of two loved ones who hate each other. You had to support one because of the circumstances at the time, but you lost the other. When you want to forgive and forget the other, you cannot because you will devastate the one you supported, who will then never forgive you. Then you will have lost both because neither can forgive and forget.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

raven-blackbird · ‎06-03-2010

On 1/17/2015 ivanatrump said:
On 1/17/2015 raven-blackbird said:
I don't think people necessarily forgive or forget........they just move on and with time forget...................................raven

In real life yes but from what I've seen, not here.

HAHAHAHA.........yeah the forget part gets left out here..................good one.........................................raven

We're not in Kansas anymore ToTo

Plaid Pants · ‎11-03-2014

I have an aunt, who is going to be turning 90 this year. She still holds a grudge towards her younger sister, because, in her eyes, he younger sister got her way all the time.

My dad, who didn't have an easy childhood either, has forgiven their parents for their upbringing.

Who is happier, and is more at peace?

In my opinion, my dad is.

ivanatrump · ‎06-26-2014

On 1/17/2015 Ford1224 said:
The worst is being caught in the middle of two loved ones who hate each other. You had to support one because of the circumstances at the time, but you lost the other. When you want to forgive and forget the other, you cannot because you will devastate the one you supported, who will then never forgive you. Then you will have lost both because neither can forgive and forget.

Are you referring to your daughters?

If so, as mother you need to let them know you will not choose sides. Their feelings for each other should not be passed on to others.

RainCityGirl · ‎12-16-2012

Forgive, sure...to a point. Move on....by all means. Forget....nah, not if it's imprinted in one's memory forever. There's always that little nagging voice saying, "Proceed with caution."