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[sidsmom]

On 1/20/2015 SoftRaindrops said:

On 1/20/2015 sidsmom said:

On 1/20/2015 SoftRaindrops said: One needs only to read the Jane Fonda thread to get the real answer to this topic..

Funny how both these threads are active @ the same time. I would think 99.9% of the world's past-present spiritual leaders would say having hate in your heart is not a good thing. Hate will kill you faster than any other thing you can imagine.

Sidsmom, this is just a small demographic posting here. I doubt that most of the opinions posted on that other thread are representative of the world at large.....

You're right, SoftRaindrops (love that nic!)! I've been accused of being a 'Pollyanna' (!), so I go into those convos hoping love & warm fuzzies will prevail. I'll always be that that little peace-sign girl w/ flowers in her hair!

[RainyDayGal]

I am the Queen of Grudges.

[VioletEyes]

On 1/20/2015 sidsmom said:

On 1/20/2015 SoftRaindrops said:

On 1/20/2015 sidsmom said:

On 1/20/2015 SoftRaindrops said: One needs only to read the Jane Fonda thread to get the real answer to this topic..

Funny how both these threads are active @ the same time. I would think 99.9% of the world's past-present spiritual leaders would say having hate in your heart is not a good thing. Hate will kill you faster than any other thing you can imagine.

Sidsmom, this is just a small demographic posting here. I doubt that most of the opinions posted on that other thread are representative of the world at large.....

You're right, SoftRaindrops (love that nic!)! I've been accused of being a 'Pollyanna' (!), so I go into those convos hoping love & warm fuzzies will prevail. I'll always be that that little peace-sign girl w/ flowers in her hair!

Ah, that's sweet!

[sidsmom]

On 1/20/2015 SoftRaindrops said:

On 1/20/2015 sidsmom said:

On 1/20/2015 SoftRaindrops said:

On 1/20/2015 sidsmom said:

On 1/20/2015 SoftRaindrops said: One needs only to read the Jane Fonda thread to get the real answer to this topic..

Funny how both these threads are active @ the same time. I would think 99.9% of the world's past-present spiritual leaders would say having hate in your heart is not a good thing. Hate will kill you faster than any other thing you can imagine.

Sidsmom, this is just a small demographic posting here. I doubt that most of the opinions posted on that other thread are representative of the world at large.....

You're right, SoftRaindrops (love that nic!)! I've been accused of being a 'Pollyanna' (!), so I go into those convos hoping love & warm fuzzies will prevail. I'll always be that that little peace-sign girl w/ flowers in her hair!

Ah, that's sweet!

SRD: I have a feeling you're the same way!!

[chrystaltree]

A psychiatrist might be able to answer that question. I tend to accept the apology, forgive and move on. Holding a grudge is too tiresome and it's like a poison to the grudge holder. Forgiving doesn't mean that I forget, it doesn't mean that the relationships survives. It just means that I made conscious decision to move on.

[newziesuzie]

On 1/20/2015 AngelPuppy1 said:

I think it is hard at times to both forgive and forget. And some people just refuse to even try. I have read a lot of times where it says that when you forgive and forget, it releases you from your bondage. If you don't, then you are carrying that load around with you and you are the one who suffers the most. Eventually, that load gets heavier and heavier to carry. I admit that there are somethings I have forgiven, but they are still somewhere inside me. I try not to dwell on them and I try to move forward. The longer you refuse to forgive, the stronger that hold is on you. After awhile, I think it is pride that makes people hold on to these things. Really, it does make you the bigger person, although that at times is really hard to accept.

I never thought of it the way you explain it. Thanks.

Thanks everybody for your posts.