Holding grudges or forgiving and forgetting? - Page 5

AnikaBrodie · ‎03-10-2010

Holding grudges is not healthy. So, I elect to forgive; however, forgetting is a bit harder to do.

"Faith, Hope, Love; the greatest of these is Love." ~The Silver Fox~

Snowpuppy · ‎03-09-2010

Holding a grudge means you want to extract a price to restore the relationship.

You can forgive someone and move on wanting nothing to do with them because of the damage they've done to your life. No matter what apology they offer it doesn't mean you can ever trust them again. No matter what they offer you.

There's a saying that once someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Shorty2U · ‎03-09-2010

I don't hold grudges. I do forgive BUT I don't forget.

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make~ The Beatles

FUTURE · ‎04-11-2010

I have had to be forgiven many times, and because of my faith, feel called to forgive others. I've never been in such a position that I really felt anything was worth holding a grudge over. Have I been hurt? Yes, many times. But I'm sure I've done just as much hurting, as well, and those that loved me showed me grace and forgiveness, and I feel the need to do the same.

shoekitty · ‎03-10-2010

On 1/17/2015 Snowpuppy said:
Holding a grudge means you want to extract a price to restore the relationship.

You can forgive someone and move on wanting nothing to do with them because of the damage they've done to your life. No matter what apology they offer it doesn't mean you can ever trust them again. No matter what they offer you.

There's a saying that once someone shows you who they are, believe them.

well said snowpuppy

“sometimes you have to bite your upper lip and put sunglasses on”….Bob Dylan

feline groovy · ‎07-29-2014

"Why do people hold grudges?"...

Arrogance/self-importance.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

Intellectually we know it's in our best interest to forgive and not hold grudges, but one never really forgets. I find the older I get if there is some one who makes me uncomfortable I just don't socialize with them. Life is too short to put up with some ones nonsense.

croemer · ‎03-10-2010

I think it depends on what the person did...and how egregious.

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Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

I think holding a grudge involves an element of self-rightness and not being able to forgive and give up that resentment has some victimhood there. Both have a concept of someone doing something to me. Of course someone did do something unacceptable, but it is all how you process the fact. Forget? Never.