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[PIT-HAG Melissa]

On 2/17/2015 Marp2 said:

On 2/17/2015 Marmalade said:

Some experts consider the HSP closely related to also having a BPD (borderline personality disorder). I agree and have no sympathy for them at all.

Perhaps that is why the state of mental health care in this country is woefully lacking.

I recently watched a program that stated there used to be millions of beds in institutes that specialize in mental health ... Now there are so many less that many who SHOULD be helped end up in prison...

[dooBdoo]

On 2/17/2015 Alley Catvocate said:

On 2/17/2015 Marp2 said:

On 2/17/2015 Marmalade said:

Some experts consider the HSP closely related to also having a BPD (borderline personality disorder). I agree and have no sympathy for them at all.

Perhaps that is why the state of mental health care in this country is woefully lacking.

I recently watched a program that stated there used to be millions of beds in institutes that specialize in mental health ... Now there are so many less that many who SHOULD be helped end up in prison...

The closing of mental health facilities and the marginalization of those who need mental health care in this country is shameful. I read recently that the prison system is now the largest mental health care system in the USA. That's so ineffective and archaic.

[foundinlv]

On 2/17/2015 beanie said:

On 2/17/2015 Melania2 said:

Beanie it is so nice that you are doing your level best to make this a good working situation but I wonder what does your co-worker have to do on her part to do the same for you?

Why is it so one sided? Is she responsible for having to do her part as well?

This all came about because her space was invaded?? Wow... sounds more like she has control issues and just can't or won't work with others well. Management is okay with that? Oh so they throw HR at it but she is an employee just as you are and has to do as others do. In her home it's a choice but not at work.

AMEN

Beanie....please keep us posted as this is very interesting.

[MickD]

Well it all started with deinstitutionalization in the 70's with no/ little thought of how to support the mentally ill in the communities....

[Melania]

On 2/17/2015 Ilikeshade said:

On 2/17/2015 beanie said:

On 2/17/2015 Melania2 said:

Beanie it is so nice that you are doing your level best to make this a good working situation but I wonder what does your co-worker have to do on her part to do the same for you?

Why is it so one sided? Is she responsible for having to do her part as well?

This all came about because her space was invaded?? Wow... sounds more like she has control issues and just can't or won't work with others well. Management is okay with that? Oh so they throw HR at it but she is an employee just as you are and has to do as others do. In her home it's a choice but not at work.

AMEN

Beanie....please keep us posted as this is very interesting.

I'm just sorry as this work situation is very difficult through no fault of her own. SHE was told to move to this persons extra large space and the other person is freaking out. Perhaps her hostility should be at management and not the OP.

[Elstongunn]

On 2/17/2015 SuiGeneris said:

On 2/17/2015 Ford1224 said:

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:

I guess I thought we were talking about being a "Highly Sensitive" person. My mistake.

Now I see it's about rude people, spoiled brats, temper tantrums etc. manipulating others to to get their own way.

Stick your heads back in the ground and have a nice day.

I agree. Some have veered off from the topic completely.

I, too, agree.

It occurs to me that without all the "highly sensitive people" in our past, we would not have had wonderful operas or symphonies, beautiful works of art, or, perhaps, all the great literature that inhabit our concert halls, museums and libraries.

But, perhaps all the practical, no-nonsense, blunt people might be okay with that?

Your occurred thoughts contain way too many unfounded assumptions and little to no actual facts in basis.

[kdgn]

I'm a little curious too about what accommodations this woman has made herself. She may well be a highly sensitive person or she may have just become so accustomed to being alone that someone else in the office is a distraction to her. What has she herself done in an attempt to ignore the distraction, the "noise", etc.? Why does it seem that Beanie is the one who has to read the book and make adjustments?

You would think that surviving this long (?) in the work force that she would have learned how to adapt to some things rather than forcing others to adapt to her.

I know I am highly sensitive to noise when I'm trying to concentrate. I've been this way as far back as junior high. In order to do my homework or study for a test I had to block out all the noises in the house-including the tv that was on at the other end of the house. The silence of my room seemed to amplify every noise. My solution was to wash my hair, get it in rollers and put on the bonnet hair dryer. Once my hair was dry I put it on the cool setting and continued to study. This was particularly effective while in a college dorm and later an apartment. To this day I can't concentrate when surrounded by noises.

So if office noise is a problem for her then she needs to investigate noise reducing headphones.

[cotton4me]

From my understanding, HSP’s nervous systems are wired differently and have a relatively low threshold of arousal - - bright lights, loud noises, too much noise/chatter in an office can be distracting to them, making it difficult to concentrate, etc.

I used to know an HSP who started out in a quiet space and he did a great job. He was moved to a cubicle in a noisy area and his work went downhill. He couldn’t focus or concentrate and ended up having to quit his job. I felt badly for him.

I also worked with someone who had ADD. She also had difficulty concentrating and I had to give her instructions in a certain way (a very time consuming way) or she was unable to do the task or learn. I read up on ADD which helped me to understand her a lot better.

In both of the above cases, the people were very nice, doing their best. Working with other people is usually challenging, sometimes requiring a certain amount patience and understanding.

[croemer]

No...but I do have a relative that I consider extremely....hyper sensitive.

[Moonchilde]

I have known I was one of Elaine Aron's Highly Sensitive People for about 15 years - since I first read her book. Stuff I have dealt with since childhood and always wondered *why* certain things made me crazy. I happen to be an introvert and had always chalked it up to that, but it's definitely more than that.

As it goes, I am fairly mild on the spectrum and It doesn't affect me often with those around me. I may get irritated, but I know the issue is me so I just do my best to ignore it. Children with HSP and those who are heavily affected are indeed flirting with autism spectrum. I could go on, but I'm at work so will stop.

One thing, though - the two friends I told were very dismissive, as if I was just making things up to get my way. They didn't want to even entertain the possibility that I was telling the truth. They were both out of my life, by my choice, pretty soon after that. I don't think we miss each other.