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[pommom]

A while back I posted about my high-maintenance tabby. I believe it's getting worse.

I cannot give him enough attention.

He meows constantly. He follows me everywhere I go. He jumps on counters even though I've sprayed him a million times. He body-bangs my bathroom door until it opens while I'm showering (which, in turn, allows all the cold air to come in). What concerns me the most is the habit he has of plopping down in the middle of the kitchen floor while I'm cooking, clearing the dishwasher, making a sandwich, etc., etc. When I'm cooking I am concerned that he'll get burned or that I'll trip over him causing him and me injury.

He reminds me of a toddler. I literally have to sneak into the kitchen while he's in a deep sleep (never deep enough) to navigate around. I'll be darn if he doesn't wake and start the meowing and spreading out on the kitchen floor.

I have no "space" with this cat.

He is very aggressive with my little calico (litter mate) who is demure and my idea of a perfect cat. She knows when my tone of voice means business - as in when I tell her to "get down" from the table or counters.

It has gotten so bothersome that I no longer take staycations (vacation at home). He makes it so unpleasant. This year instead I've scheduled long weekends and plan outings every day I'm off. Plus I don't like the idea of leaving them for days on end.

At night, he curls up on my lap which I love and I give him lots and lots of loving.

We have a morning ritual whereby he'll jump on the bed and I'll groom him for a few minutes while I speak tenderly to him letting him know I love him. My little calico jumps on the bed, too, and she gets her grooming. The minute I leave them, though, he bites her and makes her get off the bed.

I've spent a fortune on toys, a scratching post, and play with them when I arrive from home.

I saw a great kitty condo for them that came with 5 star reviews and want them to have it. However, it is expensive which I don't mind spending money on - I just don't know that he'd let her get on it.

I spoke with the rescue lady who worked with me on the adoption. She said he may not be a fit for me. It's going on 2 years now and I just don't know what to do... so conflicted.

And I am an animal lover which is why this causes me so much grief.

Any suggestions?