Having a difficult time with this - Page 2

JudyL · ‎07-11-2010

@goldensrbest - So sorry you are going through this. Your feelings are understandable and normal. As someone else said, take it one day, sometimes one breath at a time. It is a loss and it's ok to have these feelings. My heart goes out to you.

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

This is a hard one isn't it? So many memories. Please take care.

debfau · ‎03-25-2010

My mom is about to go through this - both of her parents have been gone for over 30 years but her brother (my Uncle) continued to live in the house as he took care of parents when they were alive.

My Uncle fell last month (he lived alone) and ended up passing from his injuries, so now my Mom is the last remaining family member and will have to be dealing with the house and everything in it (which is out of state for her, a 9 hr drive).

@goldensrbest - I wish you all the best.

MalibuFox · ‎02-03-2024

and these posts are exactly what makes this forum so very special,these situations are

something we all have had to do,or will be be facing. The encouragement and well wishes are so uplifting to read. Malibu

Sassycoco · ‎08-05-2023

@goldensrbest

Like others have posted ...it's natural to have these feelings....
Find comfort in all the wonderful memories....you will always carry
them in your heart ❤️

I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers 🙏.....

cheriere · ‎12-01-2023

@debfau wrote:
My mom is about to go through this - both of her parents have been gone for over 30 years but her brother (my Uncle) continued to live in the house as he took care of parents when they were alive.

My Uncle fell last month (he lived alone) and ended up passing from his injuries, so now my Mom is the last remaining family member and will have to be dealing with the house and everything in it (which is out of state for her, a 9 hr drive).

@goldensrbest - I wish you all the best.

So sorry to hear about your uncle. Your mom is in this difficult situation that's only made harder by being so far away. Hopefully, things won't be too hard to manage and you're not having to work on a timeline. Either way, going through your childhood home is always an emotional experience. Thoughts and prayers with your family.❤️

Puppy Lips · ‎05-09-2010

So sorry you are going through this, but we all go through some form of this loss. When it was time for my Mom to say goodbye to my childhood home 5 years ago (my Dad had passed already), I was there to help clear out the house. My last time in the house I broke down in tears (with my dumb brother staring at me and wondering what was wrong with me) because I felt like we were leaving Dad behind. When I think of "home", it is not the home I now live in, it is that home, that I grew up in.

Fast forward to a few months ago. My butt-inski sister in law wormed her way into my parents' old home. The new owners made some significant changes to it and my sister in law sent me pictures. I wish like heck she had not done that. I wanted to remember it as I left it, not with other people living there and making changes.

Such is life. We have to accept these changes and move on. Good luck to the OP.

Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else. Margaret Mead

katie1859 · ‎06-25-2022

I went through this with my mom. In fact, I was on autopilot and never grieved bc of the stress. I'm an only child and closed it all down myself. It was hard.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

I'm sorry that you're going through this. The sense of loss is profound and never easy. While my parents sold my childhood home back in 1987 and moved to a condo in Florida, when mom passed two years ago my brother and I had to deal with the same issues.

It isn't easy but we had to let go of a lot of stuff. Many memories were tied up in that stuff but there was no way we could ship everything back to our homes so a lot of precious things were just given away. Selling was not really an option since we only had a few weeks once we decided to put the condo on the market. It's always sad.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

@katie1859 wrote:
I went through this with my mom. In fact, I was on autopilot and never grieved bc of the stress. I'm an only child and closed it all down myself. It was hard.

@katie1859 - I was my mom's only surviving child. She died suddenly, right before Christmas, so we took her cat, and locked up the house.

For three years I dealt with this - 2-1/2 hours away, with a one-year old. Most of the time I went on weekends. DD stayed with her friend. DH did his best to come with me when he could, but he couldn't come if he was on call. Like you, I had a really hard time emotionally and physically.

@goldensrbest - I'm sorry you're going through this, but as you can see, a lot of us have.

When my grandmother died she had been in a skilled nursing unit for years. She kept talking about going home when she got better. She never knew that her children had already cleaned her home out and sold it.