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occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

@AliJoi5 wrote:
Well said @Mominohio, thank you!!

I have decided that, as another poster recommended (thank you @chrystaltree), I will make a donation to the HCOA. And if I see Mrs. H again, who knows, maybe the moment will be right to make amends. I appreciate all of your

Think twice about making a donation because it will be perceived as an admission of guilt, that you had laughed at her daughter and were wanting to clear your conscience.

Do not bring it up when you run into her, it will be awkward especially if she has forgotten the incident and it puts her on the spot for a response if she does.

Write the letter as you have your OP, you will have done the right thing, all you could do, and then let it go.

AliJoi5 · ‎03-10-2010

Hi @occasionalrain - The donation would be just for me to know in my heart that I righted the situation as best I could, so I can move past it. Thanks for your comment!

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

I'm glad you have a resolution now Ali.

I kept from commenting yesterday because of the unneccessary post thrown in/thrown up, but am happy that it's now gone.

The idea of a donation will benefit you and others.

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

Hi Ali! I hope you are feeling better today.

I think the donation is a great idea. But telling her about it probably isn't. That's kind of skeevy, IMO.

I hope you have the opportunity to clear things up so that it won't continue to haunt you! Today is another day, eh?

Karnerblue · ‎03-18-2015

For me it would be more important to clear the air with the woman and not leave her thinking that you would laugh at the daughter's situation. Making a contribution would not ease the thought that I hurt someone's feelings. Personally I would need to right the situation, but it's really a personal thing so do what you feel is best

"Never water yourself down just because someone can't handle you 100% proof."

AliJoi5 · ‎03-10-2010

Thanks for the support @Lucky Charm! I feel good about it. So glad I posted this thread. Lots of great feedback that really got me thinking.

AliJoi5 · ‎03-10-2010

@chickenbutt lol I thought only we New Englanders used skeevy (and wicked )! And yes it would spectacularly skeevy to mention the donation, agreed!! Yep, 'tis a new day, my friend. Enjoy it everyone!!

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

I haven't read the whole thread, but here is what I would do.

I would write her a letter, explaining what happened and why. Apologize for what happened.

Then it is on her to either accept it, or not.

You then can feel good knowing that you tried, and let go of the guilt.

Susan in California · ‎06-02-2014

@AliJoi5

You did such an excellent job explaining what had happened. My first thought was how I wish your former teacher could have read it.

I think a letter might be a wonderful idea. If I were she, I would truly appreciate your heart-felt feelings.

On another note, I have a life-long friend who has always made me laugh. She can get me going to this day, and I am in my sixties now. When we were in school,

from 8th grade (when I met her) she could get me laughing and I couldn't stop.

I totally understand.

So, as a kindred spirit, as someone who laughs a lot and sometimes when I shouldn't be laughing, I think your former teacher would appreciate a letter.

P.S. I am a retired school teacher myself, so from that point as well,

I would realize how much this has truly bothered you.

AliJoi5 · ‎03-10-2010

Too funny @Susan in California, I knew you were a teacher before I even got to that part of your post! Such a thoughtful reply, thank you. My mother was a first grade school teacher for 30 years. And her name is Susan! Oh how she loved working with the little ones. She still misses it. May I ask which grade you taught? Oh yes, I love to laugh... and as a kindred spirit, you know how painful, but oddly satisfying, it is to crack up when you're not supposed to!!