Community Chat

[MarieIG]

Really?!  Sorry I can't help you, no one told me they were going to complain.

[NYC Susan]

Thank you to everyone who replied!

[CrazyDaisy]

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@DiAnne wrote:

I would be really upset if someone reported me to management without talking to me first and was acting as if everything was OK.  Maybe she should talk to them about the other problems first and then notify management if it continues.  I certainly would not lie to them if they asked.  

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I have to agree.  Seems rather deceitful to smile to someones face then talk about/file a complaint behind their back.  Then to consider to lie about it. 

[Mominohio]

If there were multiple issues with these neighbors, I would indeed approach management, but honestly, people in authority these days often don't do their job, or do it right. I can see where management might rat her out if the neighbors are pushy or bullying types, even if management doesn't really mean to make it apparent who complained, so she does need to be ready to answer however she is going to want to.

If it were me, I'd be avoiding them as much as possible, since they are a problem, and if caught and asked point blank, I wouldn't admit it. I'd figure a way to deflect, and if they get too pushy, push back.

[deedledeedeedle]

@NYC Susan 

This situation is so darn dicey.

Speaking from experience, since my condo association amended the bylaws during the recession to allow third party tenants there have been so many problems. We had many foreclosed units not paying dues so this was the ill-advised fix.

Next door the first family kept driving their illegal motorcycle onto the common area, pulling it into the gated patio in the rear of the unit beneath my bedroom window. The engine was revved. This would happen late at night, one time at 1:30 a.m. I awaken at 5:00 a.m. for work.

I went straight to management and the family was evicted. There were other things going on, too.

Now there is a family living there that constantly litter. Everything gets thrown right onto the ground including water bottles, receipts, paper towels, empty paper cups, lids and straws, etc. I've spoken to the children but it continues to happen. Lately I collect everything and put it on their front porch but I shouldn't have to do this. My point is if they were owners this probably wouldn't be happening. I should just relocate but I have just paid off the mortgage and am not ready to start over with a new mortgage on a property comparable to this one.

I'm sorry to hijack your thread. You pay rent just like everyone in your complex, so you have the right to speak up when untenable situations occur. If questioned just refer them back to management.

dee

[NYC Susan]

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@Mominohio wrote:

If there were multiple issues with these neighbors, I would indeed approach management, but honestly, people in authority these days often don't do their job, or do it right. I can see where management might rat her out if the neighbors are pushy or bullying types, even if management doesn't really mean to make it apparent who complained, so she does need to be ready to answer however she is going to want to.

If it were me, I'd be avoiding them as much as possible, since they are a problem, and if caught and asked point blank, I wouldn't admit it. I'd figure a way to deflect, and if they get too pushy, push back.

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 As I’ve said, management is very good at handling issues.   They are very professional, and certainly are not going to “rat her out”.   They don’t cave to bullies.   It’s an upscale community, and it’s been kept that way for quite some time.   People who are disrespectful toward neighbors and property are clearly informed that their behavior will not be tolerated. 

Yes, she does prefer to avoid the neighbors because she feels so negatively about them. But she only occasionally sees them iin passing.  She’s not going to hide in her home or  change  her comings and goings in order to avoid them.   It’s not necessary, and won’t make any difference, anyway.

I agree with you that she should deflect.    Thanks for your response.