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[Joey Heatherton]

I am way too worn out for guilt trips.......I'm already my own harshest critic, so I don't need anyone else to lay drama on me.....IF someone chooses to be an ar$e, I would smile and beat a hasty retreat.............seriously don't let ANYONE else hurt you, doubt you, guilt you.........who are they to judge?......all those PERFECT morons?............please.....

[jubilant]

Guilt trips are different than confrontation. I'll take confrontation any day over a guilt trip. Laying a guilt trip on someone is manipulation. I imagine everyone has done it at one time or other but those who make a habit of it...they are the should have, need to, could have people.

[jubilant]

On 11/7/2014 Ford1224 said:

I have to say the last time I was faced with this, I did walk away and have stayed away. But that was because what I had been accused of was ridiculous.

If it's something I feel I actually did, I have a harder time to not defend myself. I am just being honest here.

Ford....I told both of my kids when they were raised..."I want to apologize for anything wrong I ever did. I want you to know that everything I did, I did out of love for you and I never set out to intentionally hurt you. Right or wrong I had your best interest at heart. If you have a problem....get counseling!!

[pommom]

What preds said.

[YorkieonmyPillow]

I didn't know, Cody; just thought I'd explain................I have enough of my own guilt without someone else trying to dump more on me.......

[jubilant]

On 11/7/2014 raven-blackbird said:

my grandmother was the MASTER of guilt trips.....a strategy she passed on to my aunts............once in high school my aunt wanted me to do something I didn't want to do.........so she pulled out her good ole standby..............when you were a baby I changed your dirty diapers..........well I had had it with the dirty diaper deal so I said to her..........ya know what, when you die I'm going to have them put on your tombstone SHE CHANGED MY SH#TTY DIAPERS............everyone started to laugh and she had to retire that guilt trip..........so I'm pretty immune to guilt trips after years of them................................raven

That's so funny, Raven. Those one-liners are the best and they work!

[terrier3]

My mom used to say that Dr. Spock encouraged parents to guilt their children into good behavior.

I think this was her personal interpretation though!

[ROMARY]

Ignore and keep smiling, continue to do what you were doing..............(especially with teens.......sometimes a lot of manipulation going on...........)

[Puzzle Piece]

Is a Guilt trip anything like Survivors Guilt in a way???

[qualitygal]

On 11/8/2014 Love Roses said:

Is a Guilt trip anything like Survivors Guilt in a way???

I'm no authority but will give you a oh heaven's no on that question.

Let's say, survivor's guilt is when someone lives and the others don't. A guilt trip, is sometimes when one person tries to make another person feel at fault for doing something wrong. It doesn't mean they did anything wrong, it's a manipulation tool. That's how I see it. If someone else can explain better, have a go at it please.