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[ROMARY]

As I've mentioned before, just drop her off at wherever she wants to go. Then, pick her up at a pre-arranged time. I've had guests who had their own cars and who were 'night people' (awakened around 1pm, their day excursions began at 4pm, etc.), so they took off for very late movies and whatever else in the wee hours (lol).

[Marienkaefer2]

I find this thread sad, though there probably a deeper back story. On one side, people dealing with a guest they don't want. On the other, someone looking for some company or diversion.

[ROMARY]

Marien: Shame on me and you're completely right. When my very energetic guests were visiting, (non holidays), there were always two or more of them, eager to go sight-seeing, movies, etc. so they weren't alone. And, yes, maybe O/P's guest needs a bit of companionship during this time. . . . . BTW, I've found, in general, that late-risers have tons more energy than most folks.

[occasionalrain]

It is sad. However, none of us can help how we feel and it's helpful to vent those feelings, no matter how unacceptable or unsociable they may be, in a place or to those who are not involved. The OP feels how she feels, put upon, and we are just trying to lighten her mood. There is nothing sad about that.

[puglet1]

On 12/26/2014 dex said: I have to wonder what has changed in this world to make us so private that we don't welcome guests into our homes with open arms.I remember when I was young families were excited about guests and now from the time they arrive we are counting down their departure.I am not much different myself with the exception of family.

I don't think anything has "changed in this world" dex. I think it's just a matter of people being different in that some are private or introverted while others are outgoing and don't mind surprise guests. Neither should be judged for the way they are and the way they would like to conduct their lives.

The only issue I see in this situation is the OP's husband who, if he invited his guest without his wife's knowledge, should be the one to handle all preparation and entertainment for the guest.

[hckynut]

On 12/25/2014 demitra said: I am so ready for this guest to go home. Been here two nights, but it seems like two weeks. She wants to be entertained. Ugh! We are tired and not interested in going to the movies or shopping tomorrow. She is a talker, too. I can't come up with a way to encourage her to wind up this visit. I've even said I bet her other family sure would like to see her! Nothing is working. Just blowing off some steam here.

Hi demitra

Since you are "blowing off some steam" I will inhale some of it to clear my head. Will give my usual "people will only take you as far as you allow them to do so". While I understand certain situations I also know what I would do in this one, and many others where the person is just "blowing off steam".

For me it would be very direct and to the point. In this case it would be "Friday(or whatever day YOU chose)will be your last day with us in our home". And if the don't get it from there? I would start picking up their things and putting them in front of the door, on the inside now. If that didn't do it would come "step 2". Do I really need to get law enforcement involved in this? That would be my next comment to the "intruder(s)".

Now this is just me and anyone that knows me well, knows I do not talk just to hear my own voice.

[mima]

Come out of your bedroom itching/scratching really bad and tell you hope the bedbugs are contained in your bedroom only and that they don't spread to the rest of the house.

[Clover29]

There are two schools of thought in these replies. One side feels for the OP, and doesn't always enjoy having house guests. The other side loves having guests and believes everyone should be hospitable. OP's problem is that she's on the first side, and her guest is on the second side.

[sunala]

On 12/25/2014 Susan Louise said:

Why not just ask...When did/do you plan on leaving?

No no no no! Not a good question to ask. That's giving HER the option to reply any way she sees fit, and you probably won't like the answer.

I have no solution that hasn't already been mentioned, some of which are really funny. I feel for you, but as many posters said, it's really your husband's responsibility, and he's not doing what he should. I know you mentioned there's more to this story, which there always is, but he's really being unfair to you. The both of you have to be on the same page and agree that she's got to leave by such and such a date.

I know it was mentioned to cut off her food supply. Is there any way to cut off her air supply as well?

Good luck!

[chickenbutt]

I agree with others here that the husband has dropped the ball. Then, speaking of balls, he has the gall to disappear when it annoys HIM?? No es Bueno!