Grief - Page 4

meallen616 · ‎01-10-2013

freakygirl · ‎07-03-2014

@gidgetgh, yeah, i know how that feels. i was in the airport once, waiting for my flight and got to talking to this girl. she was on her way home from her mother in law's funeral. my mom had been deceased for many years at that time, and when i mentioned her, a torrent of tears just fell from my eyes. i couldn't have been more surprised by myself! i guess those feelings of grief never completely disappear.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

@Preds wrote:
I miss and think about my father everyday, too. I have moments like yours. I've decided that those are the times that he is touching my shoulder or giving me a hug to let me know that it's still OK. I just let the tears flow and remember. That's love.

Yes, I agree. That's what I was thinking too.

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

Time does not lessen the pain, rather it helps us go on with life.

When I least it expect it, grief can overtake me. It is as if someone sneaks up behind me, hits me on the back of my knees and knocks me forward. I cry far more for my loved ones long after the initial shock has worn off. I am usually the one who has it together making arrangements and consoling others.

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@gidgetgh wrote:
Just comes out of nowhere and slams into you sometimes. Sneaky little son of a.....gun.

I was folding laundry a few minutes ago. Mundane, routine, mind numbingly boring stuff. And out of nowhere I started to cry, grieving for my dad, who passed away last year. I have no idea why. But out of the blue, I’m missing him big time tonight. Maybe it’s because he didn’t like folding his laundry either, LOL.

And in the middle of it all, I’m getting a migraine and have the visual auras which is my migraine pre-cursor. I’m a mess.

But it will all pass.

Just my random musing for tonight.

@gidgetgh You're right. It comes out of nowhere. I call it "ambush."

After my husband died, my MO was to just be so busy all day I didn't have time to think and be so tired by day's end I'd fall into bed and pass out. It worked to a point. But sometimes the busyness of my tasks brought on the the "moments" as they were things he had done.

After my brother died, I was driving home from work and thinking I would call him and share something with him. And I realized I couldn't. And I was right "back there" with the grief and tears.

I have a radio on during the day and a book in my ears for the better part of the day. An unoccupied mind is something I try to avoid.

I hope this day is better for you and that the unexpected moments of sadness will gradually be replaced by unexpected moments of joy in double the amount.

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Keepin' it real.

Patriot3 · ‎06-07-2010

@gidgetgh A few weeks ago I lost a cousin and two classmates in a matter of three weeks. All my age. It was a weird feeling. Can't explain it, but for a couple of weeks after that I was very emotional. When I was alone, of course. Any little thing that came up, or memories.

I think we all have these moments. They pass, but I agree, they are confusing. Know that you are not alone...........

HiLo · ‎03-10-2010

@Mominohio wrote:
@gidgetgh

I can totally relate. My dad passed in the 1970's when I was 18 years old.

I really thought I did well with it all....I was young, headed to college, had a busy and full life. It was expected, I had time to deal with what was coming.

And I continued to deal well with it all my life...until the last few years. I guess it is age and hormones, but I find myself crying over the loss of him for all these years now, when I went decades and did not.

And you are right. It comes at the most unexpected times, but I have noticed that if I am getting sick (like a bug with a fever), I get totally overwhelmed about it and can cry for hours as I feel miserable from the bug as well.

Hope your medication works and you don't feel the full effects of the migraine. Hugs too, for the seemingly uncontrollable nature of this thing that just grips us and needs to move through us as we grieve.

My late husband passed away when he was only 39 and the youngest, 8, never said much about it until now.....several years later. Now he wants to know everything there is to know about his Dad and is constantly mentioning.him.

HiLo · ‎03-10-2010

@lulu2 wrote:
Time does not lessen the pain, rather it helps us go on with life.

When I least it expect it, grief can overtake me. It is as if someone sneaks up behind me, hits me on the back of my knees and knocks me forward. I cry far more for my loved ones long after the initial shock has worn off. I am usually the one who has it together making arrangements and consoling others.

Years of time has lessened my pain but the scar will always remain.

AuberriJean · ‎04-09-2014

@Preds wrote:
I miss and think about my father everyday, too. I have moments like yours. I've decided that those are the times that he is touching my shoulder or giving me a hug to let me know that it's still OK. I just let the tears flow and remember. That's love.

Beautiful post @Preds.💕

mvkatbaluu · ‎01-27-2011

I am so sorry and can relate to grief more than almost everything else. My sgnificant other passed away in June and I will find myself crying so often when little things relmnd me of him. There are many. 0n 9/8, I had to put my precious 20 yr old cat, Pearl, down. OMG, this yr has been rough. So tired of being strong.. Just hoping for you and me that we will eventually just think of the wonderful times we had and the funny times too....

With Compassion,

Kathryn