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[sunshine45]

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@sidsmom wrote:

What’s the Vegas Under/Over for # of thread’s about this subject?

May 1-June 1.

As of this writing, in combination of Community & TV/Movies 

there’s a total of 27 royal threads.

By the time the pictures, honeymoon & back home news settles down,

I’m betting 60 threads. 

And yep, there’s someone in Vegas r.i.g.h.t now betting on 

what color of nail polish she’s wearin’. #Seriously

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well, then we will be seeing all the pregnancy threads after all of them die down.

[LoriLori]

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@chickenbutt wrote:

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@LoriLori wrote:

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@chickenbutt wrote:

It appears that people are starting more and more and more threads about the royal wedding just to troll everybody because this is abnormal at best, even for this board.

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Be as cynical as you want, all of you -- but the thread on the children (and I explained why I started it separately) has a post that is one of the most heartwarming, lovely true-life stories I've ever read on the forums.  

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Hi Lori.  I understand what you're saying.   The sad thing is, as there are more and more threads on the subject I just stopped opening them and have, so far, missed the lovely story you told.

The main thing is not that people are saying nobody should be discussing this.  It's that most of the threads are the exact same subject and the nature of a board would have that there is one thread for discussing the wedding, not every time somebody has a thought they start a whole new one.

Now, I think I'll check out your thread.     When there are so many, there are probably a lot of people who mised your story because it could just appear to be one more thread on the subject.

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@chickenbutt, I didn't see a heart from you so I just want to be clear:  It's on the "10 children" thread but it isn't my post, it's @jubilant sharing her story, and it's beautiful.  Hope you read it, it's well worth a little bit of scrolling.

[Cakers3]

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@dooBdoo wrote:

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@SydneyH wrote:

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@dooBdoo wrote:

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                  There are plenty of related sub-topics in this thread.     I'll reply to the original post.    If the subject line clearly states the topic and someone truly isn't interested, they wouldn't even open the thread.    If they choose to post any remark at all, they've established and proclaimed their interest.   And by the tone of their post, the way they choose to comment, they give us an impression of who they are -- especially if they have a pattern of doing this.    Not sure about motive...  people are motivated by different things.   I've never thought of it as an attempt to get attention.

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Which is whom exactly?  I still don't understand the insistance of attaching nefarious motives to a post that at the end of the day.......means nothing.  Especially when it isn't against the rules here.

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             The way we choose to respond reflects upon us.   We choose how to post, and we can choose to be tactful, civil, patient.   Or we choose not to be.   And that's a reflection of who we are, at that moment (or in general if it's a pattern).   For some reason, some people think by posting in a caustic manner (as an example) they've just cast a shadow on the person they targeted...  in fact, they only cast the shadow on themselves.    Of course, it's true that it's easy to misinterpret the written word, so sometimes that's a problem.   We need things like facial expressions, the spoken tone of voice, body language to help us communicate and we don't have that here.   Not sure what you mean about motives or rules.   As  I said I'm not sure about that since people have their own motivations, triggers, intentions, and we probably never will know what those are.   

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@dooBdoo  I wanted to pop in and say "Welcome Back" to you, doobs!

As far as interpretation, that is always based on one's perception of the poster.  Poster is liked=civil interpretation.

Poster is disliked=snarky, bashing, telling others what to do- you get the idea.

Very simple.

[Group 5 minus 1]

Entertainment!

[Cakers3]

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@Big Joanie wrote:

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@occasionalrain wrote:

The title of this thread leaves no doubt what the OP  feels about posters who post their disinterest in a topic. I wonder if the OP feels the title kind.

Posting that one doesn't care is their opinion of the topic. Otherwise, the topic would go unchallenged leaving the false impression that it's worthwhile in general. When that happens, we get more of the same.

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Oh .. so you are the person that will tell us what is worthwhile ....

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@occasionalrain@Big Joanie

I didn't interpret her post that way.  She asked if the title of the thread was also unkind.  I don't read this as her saying that the post is not worthwhile in of itself; I'm reading that unless one is in lock-step with the thread it leaves no room for dissention.

You don't have to agree with the thread to post on it; to post that one doesn't care may be in regards to the gossip and slams against Meghan, her family, the Karnac preditions that the marriage won't last, etc. etc. etc.

If we are going to discuss her gown, e.g., then discuss the gown.  To start in about Meghan being a gold-digger, or about her siblings, or her father, etc.-you get my point-is why people start losing interest.

I find those posts more offensive than a poster saying that they do not care.

Considering many unnamed sources are quoted in gossip rags anyway.

And yes, since I am up very early-meaning I sleep very little- I am going to watch the wedding, btw.

[Spurt]

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@Free2be wrote:

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@chickenbutt wrote:

I guess the threadcrapping aspect of some posts is what bugs me the most, well about the same as having a zillion threads for the same exact subject.  Normal boards don't allow either of those things and I feel most comfortable with that.

I can totally see when people have different opinions.  But when they enter a thread just to say 'who cares' or something similarly ridiculous you have to wonder why they bother.   Is it for attention?  Maybe it's to feel superior.  I guess there is a need that's not being met so I just move along and not let it get in my craw.

Also, the OT stuff - for example,  the kitchen forum seems to be overtaken with a threadbombing of unrelated threads that are just giant GIFs and cliches.   

But, hey, I'm not the boss of anything so those are just my feelings which really don't matter.     I don't spend much time here, anymore, so it matters even less.

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I hear you and agree.  Sometimes there are half a dozen unrelated threads in the kitchen forum on any given day.   There's no recourse because there is no specific rule broken.  Mods used to move threads to the right forum which is why I asked if they'd create a humor forum.  Apparently it isn't going to happen so kitchen afficiondos have to tolerate picking through for the few who encourage it.  I will sometimes check the second page to see if I missed anything that got pushed off of the first page. Other than doing that or like you not spend as much time there, there's really no choice.

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@Free2be

I think that shows what a difficult job the Mods have.  If something is OT but everyone seems to enjoying the gifs and photos and is having a good time--lots of hearts--they leave it alone instead of moving it or closing it, but for others its frustrating to read through all the comments to try to get back to the original conversation.  So that's a good idea @Free2be to have a separate category to capture funny stories, Meme's, photos, Gifs etc.....It would save time for both posters and Mods....... 

[sidsmom]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

As far as interpretation, that is always based on one's perception of the poster. 

Poster is liked=civil interpretation.

Poster is disliked=snarky, bashing, telling others what to do-

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@Cakers3

T.h.i.s is my life on certain topics in Wellness.

I can produce a counter-discussion with mountains of

fact-based evidence backing up my non-emotional remarks...

and some posters just can’t accept that...and they turn to being

snarky, bashing and trying to degrade me & my viewpoint.  

Not cool....and against Community Guidelines.

I totally understand and I’m used to it...but it doesn’t make it right.  

I had some tough years alone on an island (!), but I’m seeing

more & more posters agreeing with my viewpoint & express the

exact same thing I’m saying & the opposers meet it w/ civil discussion.

It’s a good cop-bad-cop type of thing.

Hey...as long as the message is being heard, it’s all good. 

🌼💛

[Cakers3]

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@sidsmom wrote:

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@Cakers3 wrote:

As far as interpretation, that is always based on one's perception of the poster. 

Poster is liked=civil interpretation.

Poster is disliked=snarky, bashing, telling others what to do-

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@Cakers3

T.h.i.s is my life on certain topics in Wellness.

I can produce a counter-discussion with mountains of

fact-based evidence backing up my non-emotional remarks...

and some posters just can’t accept that...and they turn to being

snarky, bashing and trying to degrade me & my viewpoint.  

Not cool....and against Community Guidelines.

I totally understand and I’m used to it...but it doesn’t make it right.  

I had some tough years alone on an island (!), but I’m seeing

more & more posters agreeing with my viewpoint & express the

exact same thing I’m saying & the opposers meet it w/ civil discussion.

It’s a good cop-bad-cop type of thing.

Hey...as long as the message is being heard, it’s all good. 

🌼💛

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@sidsmom  Hi sids-I'm assuming you mean the plant based thread.  I read that one.  We are not fully plant based (we try but are not into it totally-I want my ice cream LOL).

Yes, I've seen what happens.  We watch many shows on the benefits of plant based and we watch many shows that are not so supportive.

What works for you is what works for you.  Heck, I started a thread last year about a problem with some of my posts disappearing; not a hair on fire thread-just a basic question since I'm so not computer savvy.  Just wanted to know if others had the problem since it could have been a Q issue.

Right away along came a poster to say she wished she had such problems in her life.

Well hells bells I have some serious issues in RL but I don't drag them around here.

I just ignored her and best for you to try to do the same.  I would present your info for those like me who want it; the others  are not going to listen-they don't know how.  And that's the bottom line-they never learned the art of communication.

I won't say a person feels "superior" or other Faux Freud analyses; that isn't for me to do.  Although I could.

Best to you.

[sidsmom]

@Cakers3

Best to you, too! 🌼💛

[dooBdoo]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

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@dooBdoo  I wanted to pop in and say "Welcome Back" to you, doobs!

As far as interpretation, that is always based on one's perception of the poster.  Poster is liked=civil interpretation.

Poster is disliked=snarky, bashing, telling others what to do- you get the idea.

Very simple.

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            Hi, my friend.    Thank you, so very much.   I'm glad you're here, @Cakers3.   Sending my love to you and your dear loved ones.   (((gentle hugs)))❤️

            I agree, our interpretation is usually subjective.   That's why I think we need to give each other a more gracious benefit of the doubt, as best we can.