'Getting Older in America Today' - Page 3

QVCalm · ‎08-06-2014

Thank You @golding76....I will keep your posted words near-bye.....and, most likely near my 'snake oils.' Each is a reminder that I should, and will, use both! Blessings!

golding76 · ‎05-19-2012

I must admit to having had some vanity but not so much any longer since illness and age have knocked me down a peg or two. Yes, I study my face in the mirror and wonder, "Could I? Would I?"

Years ago, when she was still living, Jackie Kennedy advised that women should get one facelift (and you know she meant a skilled one) during their lifetime, and after that, let nature take its course. However, she also said mid-sixties and not later was the ideal time for getting such work.

So, I missed the boat on that one and not certain I would have committed to a bit of a lift anyway. The proof is that I did not do that. But I was still looking good then, too.

As I always tell my sons, there has never been and never will be an 83-year-old woman put in the grave who looks like a 35-year-old or 45-year-old (or whatever hogwash she was fed for her heroic attempts to look very young all her life). Just has never happened.

Knowing this, no matter how much I am disappointed by what I've morphed into naturally, I say to myself that the Almighty designed me, and this is the way He wanted me to age out. So, if it's happening naturally, it must be right and good.

I agree with all of you who stated that we should still follow a good diet, take in lots of water, exercise, etc. Those commitments, plus good genetics, keep some looking fantastic for a long, long time.

Ms tyrion2 · ‎05-08-2017

@Sooner wrote:
I think it is more important to be a better person than to look like a better person.

I think it is possible to do both.

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

I’m okay with doing things to improve appearance but when it interferes with living and takes up a lot of time and resources that it becomes an obsession, you can really get self centered and neglect the important things in life.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Ms tyrion2 wrote:
@Sooner wrote:
I think it is more important to be a better person than to look like a better person.

I think it is possible to do both.

@Ms tyrion2 I am sure you are right. However, I am fortunate enough that I do not have to worry about cosmetic surgery, thousands of dollars and agonizing looking in the mirror.

I do not suffer the pressure on me required to try to look younger than I am. I look good, but I look my age. And everyone around me, inluding me, is ok with that.

deeva · ‎03-09-2010

What puzzles me is why people always want to have a great tan, but then wonder why they have skin that looks like a raisin.

Ms tyrion2 · ‎05-08-2017

@Sooner wrote:
@Ms tyrion2 wrote:
@Sooner wrote:
I think it is more important to be a better person than to look like a better person.

I think it is possible to do both.
@Ms tyrion2 I am sure you are right. However, I am fortunate enough that I do not have to worry about cosmetic surgery, thousands of dollars and agonizing looking in the mirror.

I do not suffer the pressure on me required to try to look younger than I am. I look good, but I look my age. And everyone around me, inluding me, is ok with that.

@Sooner,

That was a very passive-aggressive reply.

I said nothing about plastic surgery or agonizing about looking in the mirror.

I simply mean that it takes nothing away from your "goodness" to be the best you can be. Both in appearance and in your actions.

I enjoy having nice hair and wearing makeup. I enjoy wearing clothes that flatter my body. I will never apologize for that. My appearance is important to me just as my home looking nice is important to me.

I please myself first and then think about the rest of the world. that is why I am a happy person.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

I didn't start to sag and have deep lines until I got sick and I'm 68. I'm not thrilled about finally looking my age, but I would never have any kind of injections or surgery. My skin is clear and healthy looking, I'm a healthy weight and still have good muscle tone due to daily exercise. I love my salt and pepper hair and know how to keep it looking good. If finding a good plastic surgeon is the way to preserve youth, why do all the women who succumb end up looking like they have had work done?

Kalli · ‎03-11-2010

My paternal grandfather was 5 months short of his hundreth birthday when he passed. And he smoked cigars most of his life! My dad’s 91. He’s slipping mentally but still can do his own ADLs. I guarantee he NEVER did anything to protect his skin from the elements until he was older. He and Mom enjoyed sailing up and down the east coast when they retired. He’s fair skinned with blue eyes. And he has fewer wrinkles than my brother.

Mom passed recently after a painful, vicious and cruel ten year battle with dementia. Her brothers succumbed to dementia, too. With regard to skin, Mom had beautiful bone structure but still got wrinkles as she aged.

If you’re born with great genes, you win. If not, you likely struggle to stay healthy and die sooner. And you don’t get to choose your genes. It’s a roll of the dice. If it was all about eating healthy and staying active, Mom would still be here with Dad. That was their plan. Genes got in the way.

GiantsLover · ‎08-28-2018

Thanks Panda123, seems we both had great grandparents as role models so we are both blessed.....and yes it is/was a much healthier and cleaner lifestyle.