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For people with children........question.......

  If you had to do it all over again, knowing what you know now, would you have children?

  Acknowledging that some are estranged; some parents mistreated by their adult children, and so on..............if you had to live your life over again, would you have children or would you be "child-free?"

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Of course. I always wanted kids and I'd have been heartbroken to not have any. 

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Re: For people with children........question.......


@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:

  If you had to do it all over again, knowing what you know now, would you have children?

  Acknowledging that some are estranged; some parents mistreated by their adult children, and so on..............if you had to live your life over again, would you have children or would you be "child-free?"


 

 

 

yes, i would still have children.

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Re: For people with children........question.......

Absolutely!  Without a doubt!  We are never promised that life is easy.  There are no easy absolutely perfect relationships.  Our two sons gave us unbelieveable joy!  (They weren't perfect, but neither were we!)

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Can you even imagine being the child of a parent who if they could do it over would be "child free".  Ya, that must feel good. not 

 

 

And really if you're having kids because you want something from them, then you shouldn't have any. Their lives have a purpose that has nothing to do with their parents expectations. 

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I cannot imagine life without my children.  It would be like living a life without sunshine or without the ocean or without coffee...lol    I've been fortunate, I am grateful for that but we have had our ups and downs in life.  I have a few regrets but my children are not one of them.

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Absolutely. I can't imagine what our lives would have looked like without our two wonderful girls. My husband and I have talked about that periodically and that we would not have our wonderful grandchildren. He and I were both wired to be parents.

It was not always easy especially the teenage years but no regrets. 

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Have children.  And if I couldn't have any, I would have adopted and/or become a foster parent.

Currently, I am still considering becoming a foster parent to infants up to toddlers.  I have some more world travelling to do before I get serious about fostering. 

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There isn't a word that can describe how I feel about my four children. My ex and I were married six years before we were blessed with the first two, the next two were icing on the cake. There's nothing that I wouldn't do for them and they know it. 

 

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Oh, yes, we decided to adopt quite late (we were in our forties) by first becoming foster care parents.  We couldn't really afford the other options, and we knew through friends that the county had many children that needed adoption.

 

We expected an older child, for obvious reasons, and we were surprised and thrilled when the social worker called and said "We have a beautiful baby boy for you".

 

I'll never forget those words.