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[ROMARY]

Next time (if someone calls you (also me) with a slightly troublesome (for you, me) request, just say: "I'll have to call you back, I'm just stepping out of the tub" (or I have another call waiting, etc.). Then, take a few minutes to think about the situation/request. That way, you (and I) will have an answer prepared. Now, I'll have to follow my own advice!!

[colliemom4]

On 2/17/2015 GoodStuff said:

If you're not comfortable driving in the snow, then don't! This is hardly a life-and-death errand of mercy. If your friend feels she must have her party supplies, she can find another way to get them, either by calling AAA to get her car started or by asking someone else to drive her. Maybe she can invite someone she is inviting to the party.

I agree!

[feline groovy]

[SusyQ222a]

Learn one two letter word ""no"" it's liberating. What nerve she has to ask you to drive her somewhere and not inviting you even if you wouldn't attend. It's good manners. I like what someone said in a post above ""you teach people how to treat you"". Very true.

[luvdoodles]

Just tell her the truth, more snow than you expected and you are not comfortable driving in this weather for the safety of yourself and her. Don't feel guilty at all. You weren't even invited to the party. That should tell you something. She will find someone else to use. We have neighbors like this also but they have backed off a little after getting the hint.

[missy1]

Tell her the truth. You are not obligated. As far as the party it may be a co-worker, relative or social club party. Don't feel like you were left out.

[Financialgrl]

I see the situation took care of itself - however; there's an easier way out next time (if there is a next time). When you called, you could have said, "hey, I'm planning to go to the grocery store tomorrow if the weather's not too bad and wondering if you need something". Then, the next day if the weather is such that you do not feel comfortable, call back and tell her you will not be going.

Also, I'd pick up a few things at a grocery store for someone but I'd not pick up party supplies for someone and I'd tell them that.

[reiki604]

Again I want to thank everyone for their responses. When I called this woman it was to ask her if she was ok and if she needed end anything. In my mind I meant food or medicine that I would go out to get for her. Never did I imagine that she would ask me to take her shopping for trivial things. I don't care that I wasn't invited to her party as it was with a different group of friends but I was really taken aback that she would do this. Thankfully it all worked out and I've learned that if I offer to help someone, I'll have to be specific in what I offer. Edited for spelling