Family or Pets? - Page 3

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

@timeless wrote:
My child is horribly afraid of dogs. He's had this problem for years and it's regardless of what type of dog or whose dog it is. He refuses to go near them.
Going out in public where dogs are allowed, he steers clear of them...WIDELY.

My question to you is this: If you were hosting a family get-together where you hardly ever see someone who is afraid of a pet, would you find a place for your pet to hang out so your family member can come to visit you on a holiday?

Or would you not ask them to come?

Even if all other family was coming?

Seems like you have your own solution already! You posted this ‎10-31-2023 03:12 PM

"For years, I hosted Christmas when my son was young. I finally said no more because we were rushing our early morning gift time with him in order to clean everything up and get the food started in time. He was disappointed because he had to put away his newly acquired goodies and get dressed for relatives he rarely saw.

It has been so much more pleasant to wake up Christmas morning and leisurely enjoy coffee in our jammies and watch each other open gifts. I make dinner for just us later in the day and who cares if the house is a me

ss of wrapping paper and new gifts all over! Smiley Happy We visit relatives during the rest of the year and go out to eat. Problem solved "

BlueFinch · ‎08-31-2019

@Kachina624 wrote:

@BlueFinch wrote:
Well, being autistic, depending on where on the spectrum, he may never grow to be comfortable with dogs. If so, it would probably take some slow, skilled introductions. So, yes, I would confine my dog, if it was just for a day visit.
@BlueFinch. I don't see any mention of autism. Ive had friends with unreasonable fears of dogs or cats because of an experience they had with them.

@Kachina624 Yes, there are several reasons why someone may have fear of dogs, or other animals, but the OP stated in the third post of this thread, that he is autistic. With his challenges, this could be the reason for his ongoing fear of dogs.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@timeless wrote:
My child is horribly afraid of dogs. He's had this problem for years and it's regardless of what type of dog or whose dog it is. He refuses to go near them.
Going out in public where dogs are allowed, he steers clear of them...WIDELY.

My question to you is this: If you were hosting a family get-together where you hardly ever see someone who is afraid of a pet, would you find a place for your pet to hang out so your family member can come to visit you on a holiday?

Or would you not ask them to come?

Even if all other family was coming?

@timeless

I feel like there's more to this, but my first thought was why can't the host have a neighbor possibly take the dog for a few hours?

Any child with extreme fears needs to be worked with to get over it. You can't just let them go on indefinitely with something that obviously needs to be dealt with.

How old is your child?

candys mine · ‎08-20-2012

Irriguardless of the disposition of the humans involved, for the Safety of my Animals I put them in a closed off room of their own to save them from the influx of "strangers" and noise.

birdQ13 · ‎07-30-2013

My relative has 2 untrained dog fur-babies with objectionable to me behavior- who jump up on you constantly, bark loudly, sniff crotches, steal food, etc. n the basement because they go crazy trying to break through the door, so she can't invite me over anymore. We live nearly 90 minute hard drive apart. She won't come to my house due to the drive. So my only option is to meet her at a restaurant in her town or in-between. It is sad to not hang out together anymore, but in her world the dogs come first.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
People over animals always. Period.

It's the dogs home...

My daughter and son-in-law have one dog that I'm kind of a little leery of but I would never expect them to lock her up while I was there.

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

Dogs are family members.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@mormel20 wrote:
I think a person has a right to say what will and will not happen in their own home. For example, people are not allowed to smoke in my home. I don't care if you are family, friend or who. Because it is my home and I set the rules. Would'nt it be the same for a pet? Their home, their rules.

I totally agree. I don't allow smoking in our home even if a few friends are addicted to nicotine. Some people don't allow shoes in their homes. I object to the idea that our dogs and cats are just THINGS without feelings and needs. Our pets were part of our family. They have personalities, routines, structure and throwing one into the cellar or locking one in a garage would not have been acceptable for any reason. In op's it's just a party and the person is the one with the problem. Not the dog. It's the dog's home so if that person can't be around the dog for whatever reason; don't go to the party.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Dogs are everywhere and avoiding them nearly impossible. This child's phobia is his parents problem, not the host's, not the fellow shopper in Lowes, or the neighbor out walking his pet.

Expecting others to accommodate your problem is presumptuous.

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@CelticCrafter wrote:
@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
People over animals always. Period.
It's the dogs home...

My daughter and son-in-law have one dog that I'm kind of a little leery of but I would never expect them to lock her up while I was there.

Humans were given dominion over the animals which means people come first and this thread shows that not all have gotten the memo. Unfortunate that some have their priorities confused.