Community Chat

[Sweetbay magnolia]

Honestly, my small family could be in the newspaper business with the amount of "editing" that goes on.

It only insults me when I see that they thought they were somehow "protecting" me.  From what?  The damage inflicted already over a childhood?

Go on with your bad self.  I go on with mine just fine, thank you.

It's the whole "glass house" syndrome.  I don't throw stones until I have to, and by then, I generally have enough intel to see what's really happening.

[Laura14]

I just lived this two weeks ago.  The entire sordid tale was on the Among Friends forum where some very nice posters gave me some really great advice.  Strangers can sometimes act more like family then the supposed real thing.   

[SahmIam]

If interested, I'll call/ask.

If they want me to know, they'll tell me.

That about sums it up.

[panda1234]

Found out brother in law had cancer on Facebook.

[Cakers3]

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@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:

@Cakers3  When my husband had cancer I made sure his siblings were told what was going on with him. 

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@CrazyKittyLvr2   And that is fine.  I would have done the same thing.

Family dynamics can be convoluted and trying to figure out some people is like trying to smell the number 7.

Your frustration is yours and that is ok; all I'm saying is that all situations have two sides, whether right or wrong.

Just send your condolences and attend the services if you are nearby and let it be.

This too shall pass and in the end the death of this person is the focus, not who did or didn't call.  

[NYCLatinaMe]

If you want to keep up with what is going on in their lives, you should call them.  if you don't have time, don't be surprised they don't have time to keep you informed,

[GCR18]

Big things yes.  It was the little things that were omitted.  My niece and nephew were young when I moved away, they are now teens.  I wanted to hear about first tooth lost or first day of school.  It was the little things I wasn't kept up on.  My sister and I spoke often too.

[Lilysmom]

@NYCLatinaMe , I agree with your comments.

If OP & family are out of the loop, you are probably not in their inner circle so don’t be surprised if you aren’t kept up to date.  Also, when people are very ill or have a death of a loved one, they are not worrying about who knows what.  It is a two way street.  Do you reach out regularly?  If not, that may be why.  LM

[CrazyDaisy]

The "no one told me" statements get old in all aspects of life.  Communication is always 2 way.

[sann]

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@Laura14 wrote:

I just lived this two weeks ago.  The entire sordid tale was on the Among Friends forum where some very nice posters gave me some really great advice.  Strangers can sometimes act more like family then the supposed real thing.   

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Amen to that.