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[THEJBUGG]

I have a family reunion coming up this summer that one of my relatives is organizing.

I'm seriously thinking of not going. The only issue is out of all the couisins, aunts and uncles, I would be the only one who wouldn't be attending. Everyone has RSVP'D yes. I told them it's too far out for me to commit at this time but I'll think about it.

The reunion is 3 hours away from where I live.

The thing is, there's a lot of in-fighting that goes on in my family and quite honestly, if I were to go, I know stuff would be brought up and I'd really rather not have to deal with it. Stuff like past arguments, petty comments etc. Let's just say my family, as much as I love them, brings the term disfunctional to a whole new level. I love them, I'd just rather not deal with the drama.

But if I don't go, I'll be the only one not going and I know it'll be a big deal and they'll all bring it up via email.

I'm debating on what to do. Why drive 3 hours one way to spend time with people who will create drama in your life? This is what I'm dealing with.

I'd welcome your input.

[THEJBUGG]

Sorry, I CAN spell dysfunctional.

[scotttie]

I'd go. Every family has karp. You never know when the group will lose someone in the coming year and you might feel bad you missed a chance to see them. I recommend a Large Beer or cocktail as you visit.

[Catfancy]

I would go. No one is getting any younger and you may regret not going some day! If the going gets rough----- then you can leave. Tell them you have a long drive and a busy tomorrow!

[mgm2]

You should go, it's about family, not just you.

[radimage]

My mom died with us being mad at each other.

Go.

You'll regret it if you don't.

[onewhiteSparrow]

Might as well go but handle things the way you have an out to leave. You could have a friend call you at a time you ask them to call you on your cell phone. Go outside and make the call for them to call you in 30 minutes or one hour.

Or if you have a iPhone you can set your Alarm Clock to go off at a time you want to leave. And just say that is your reminder that you have to return home or work later that evening.

[LyndaGee]

I'm not good with advice, but I can relate because my family can be the same way when they get together. I have a couple of uncles who enjoy pushing buttons.

You have time, and I'm sure you'll make the right decision. Good luck!

[scotttie]

On 1/26/2014 onewhiteSparrow said:

Might as well go but handle things the way you have an out to leave. You could have a friend call you at a time you ask them to call you on your cell phone. Go outside and make the call for them to call you in 30 minutes or one hour.

Or if you have a iPhone you can set your Alarm Clock to go off at a time you want to leave. And just say that is your reminder that you have to return home or work later that evening.

Lol! Sparrow, my kids and I have a code for just such situations "The Duck Flies at Midnight!"

[GCR18]

I agree, go. I would get there fashionably late and be the second one to leave.