Fair is Fair - Page 4

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

@QVCkitty1 I think you make a very valid point! I know I have done that before! Once the sun comes up and things look better I regret what I wrote! You are right, no need to seal it in stone!

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

@Moonchilde wrote:
Fair? I'm not sure how the concept of "fair" works as far as people posting opinions that aren't "nice", agreeable, warm and fuzzy.

I think it's perfectly valid, in a thread where a poster pitches a hissyfit because they didn't get "a" package when they were supposed to and their "Christmas was ruined", that others express opinions that presents and material things have traditionally not been THE point of Xmas. It's plausible to believe that a person who comes unglued about a missing package is only into the material aspect of Xmas, and yes, needs to be reminded of why *most* people celebrate.

In poor families, low on their Christmas celebrations is "stuff". What's important for them is being together, having a good time with enough food to eat and at least 1-2 small gifts for their children. Others, rich and poor and in-between, add religious observance into the mix.

The forums are about expressing one's opinions. Although some posters think they *should*, 100% of the time, be about positive thinking, love and lifting everyone up all the time - so anyone who posts otherwise in their opinions should just shut up, keep quiet, go away, etc because they're not being "nice."

No forum anywhere works that way unless it is a faith-based group. The forums are what they are. "Be nice", Don't be mean/nasty", "Always be supportive of everyone", etc. are the POV and outlook of some. But they have no power to coerce, control, nanny or "shame" other posters, though they try - for the best reasons of course.

Everyone's opinion has a right to be stated, like it or not, think it's mean or not. It's part of the give-and-take that's a discussion forum.

Oh my, I took it a different way which is why it's important to be very careful about what we write. I thought OP was concerned for poster's feelings after saying something, having others comment, and then wanting to walk back the post! I see now how I think you meant it. Anyway, to each his own is probably the rule for this! I agree, what really matters is family, friends, and caring. In my heart, those things are all connected to my religion. My holiday is important to me to be beautiful, with as nice a gift as I can afford to give, but it must be Christ's birthday, first and foremost. I'd like to say it always is for me, but truth be told, it is 90% of the time. I like to keep room for improvement. Only God is perfect!

Never underestimate the power of kindness.