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[lisaebk]

Would you mind sharing your experiences and relationships with your elderly parents? My mother is about to turn 85. She has lived alone for 30 yrs and is doing very well. She is busy socially and is in very good shape physically. Our problem comes to the emotional. Although we have never been close in sharing personal issues (our conversations are mostly light hearted and "the basics") she has become very "snippy" and argumentative. Not screaming but always correcting, talking over me (and her grandchildren) and just isn't pleasant to be around. We live about an hour away and see her at least once a month. Most months twice. She has lots of friends and gets around independently. Other than a hip that bothers her she says she is not in pain regularly (which I was wondering about causing a short temper) I have tried to talk to her but discussing problems has never been her thing and she always says we are fine.

I just find myself going through the motions with her now and doing my duty as a good daughter. Has anyone experienced this? Any advice?

Or if you are the elderly parent I would love to hear your perspective?

Thank you!