Drama queens

fairydogmother · ‎03-10-2010

we all know one. Or maybe more than one. They pop up here, in our real lives, on social media like Facebook. I'll be honest- sometimes when I post something here about my medical problems or personal stuff,whatever, I think oh geez I hope no one thinks I'm exaggerating or just trying to get attention. But that's me-still worrying about how I come across to people. Been like this my entire life.
Back to my point and my question for you guys.
What is your approach to the drama queens in your world?
I personally know two-they are women I never see in person since we moved. So I read their Facebook posts; poor pitiful me, why is life so hard, I have to be everything to everyone, etc. Then they want advice but refuse to take it. So I have stopped engaging with them until they get over themselves and go back to acting normal for a while 😁

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Marp · ‎03-09-2010

When it comes to drama queens my first impulse is to try to figure out fact from fiction then respond or ignore accordingly.

In my experience there is generally much more fiction presented with just a smattering of fact mixed in.

For example, the drama queen says I was at a party and developed the most excruciating headache I've ever had. Couldn't wait for the party to be over. This would often be followed with a detailed description of all she tried all the suggestions offered to help but they were already tried unsuccessfully.

Translation, I was at a party and started to get a headache. If it was truly excruciating it is unlikely one would hang around for the party to end.

While I am usually very sympathetic and empathetic I can be very cynical when things don't add up.

The eyes through which you see others may be the same as how they see you.

AuntMame · ‎10-16-2010

I'm fortunate that I haven't any drama queens in my life, unless one counts my mom. Otherwise, all my friends and relatives have been delightfully sane.

By the way the term "drama queen" comes from a theatrical term that arose in the late 19th, early 20th century. It referred to actresses who starred in that period's version of daily soap operas.

Middle-class women in big cities like NY and Boston would attend cheap daily theatrical performances with continuing story lines. Similar to modern TV soaps. There were favorite actresses, the Susan Luccis of the day, who starred in these soaps. They were called "drama queens" because they really were celebrities at the time, although the term was a bit derisive because they weren't doing Shakespeare.

Kitlynn · ‎03-09-2010

Just reply to them "honestly you are unhappy about ___ so what are you going to do to change how that affects you?" Don't give advice or suggestions just put it on them to give you answer for them to get a positive result. If they don't have one then just say "maybe you need to just take a moment and figure out what you need to do." If it is in person then just change the subject if it is online then don't respond anymore after you ask them the question.

cjm61 · ‎09-07-2014

@fairydogmother I don't do Facebook but can't you somehow not "follow" that person or be "friends" with them? Due to this type of scenario I don't like social media. This forum is the extent I go to for social media.

Anyway, if a person is bothering you enough to post here perhaps you should un-friend them, or whatever it's called. Give yourself a break.

SurferWife · ‎12-12-2010

@fairydogmother

I do think that some, okay, many people over-share about their problems, whether it's here, FB or any other social media site. If/when I have adversity in my life, I don't tell anyone...mum is the word. I don't need that kind of attention. Everyone faces adversity in life, and quite frankly the ones who go on & on & on about their problems are simply energy drainers. You're last sentence says it all...stop engaging until they get over themselves.

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Rockycoast · ‎03-02-2016

Looking over my friends and family I can happily say none are drama queens. Probably because none of us would put up with the behavior. Sure everyone complains now and then, but the poor me, look at me attention getting behavior, nope.