I was shocked today when I found out a good friend's wife had passed away - almost two weeks ago. Her husband is someone I have worked with for almost 20 years, but we see each other in person only a few times a year. I treasure his friendship, and he means a lot to me. He was so devoted to his wife, and would always tell me about her.
She had had major health problems since she was young, but she coped with them. I never met her, but talked to her and later their daughter on the phone a number of times. Their daughter moved back home 10 years ago to help out (their only child) with her mom. I don't know yet how she died.
Of course I missed the funeral last week, which is really heartbreaking for me. I could have easily gone. I'm sure he didn't miss me (my family has met him too), but I wish I could have been there. The friend who told me said, "I thought you knew. Don't you get the paper?" We stopped getting the daily paper about a year ago. because they were just piling up without being read. The days of reading the paper over breakfast - like my dad always did - are gone for a lot of people. DH was always out the door early, so he usually read it during the day when he had time at work. I also read it at work, or later on after dinner at home.
I am blaming myself for not knowing, but I don't want to get the paper just to check one section. A number of people who knew we worked closely together could have let me know.
SO - if you ever find yourself in a similar situation, don't assume everyone knows. A lot of people have stopped the paper and are getting their news on TV or the Internet. After I was shocked by this, someone else said a similar thing happened to someone she knew, and like me, the person felt really bad about not being aware. Maybe you or someone you know has been in this situation.