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[Noel7]

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@Lapdog wrote:

Interesting topic @hyacinth003.  Thank-you. 

I had to look up RBF (resting ####face)

How is this acceptable when so many are so upset and "outraged" these days by the use of anything even wildly remotely offensive to women? 

Even to the point that we are not supposed to call each other girls. 

How can RBF be acceptable language at any time. This is a term used to belittle women IMO. 

With that said, I am not one of the women that are offended.  One of the main things my mother instilled in me was the "Sticks and stones" adage at an early age growing up as a freckle-faced red head.  I had to develop a thicker skin.

On swearing....  I am old enough to find it delicious in a way to say things in a secretive way as my family did not partake.  I would not have sworn in front of my parents and others out of respect.

On the other side, I have close ties to a teenage female and she uses the f word like it was toast.

This is such a fun place to be and I value everyones diverse opinions very much.

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@Lapdog

FYI: The B word no longer applies to females only, it's commonly used for men.

RBF is used for both genders and means someone whose face ALWAYS looks angry, complaining, etc.

[Moonchilde]

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@QVCkitty1 wrote:

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@Moonchilde wrote:

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@QVCkitty1 wrote:

You shouldn't generalize about the vocabularies of those who use profanity. Sometimes a swear word just says what needs to be said, it doesn't mean that one 's intelligence or vocabulary is limited.

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But it's a "cool" put-down by the cleaner-than-thou who need to express their superiorness. Never mind that it isn't true, sometimes you can browbeat people with it ;-(

Yes, I know other words, lots of them, but sometimes $&@%#  is the only appropriate response. The superior tone in some of these posts  make me want to use profanity. LOL.

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You go, girl! 👹 I love it. Spot on.

And the whole "I would never associate with anyone who uses "bad" (lol) language" thing? Great, because I wouldn't want anything to do with Cleaner-Than-Thou in any case. No unicorn f*rts for me, thanks.

[Spurt]

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@SahmIam wrote:

I've heard this from English teachers, linguists, writers and individuals who have a Pulitzer for writing/journalism:

"A small mind uses foul language because it is unable/unaware of additional adjectives to use. It takes little to no effort to swear and people can't be bothered to educate themselves to learn other words. They believe they sound more mature as well, when in reality, they sound course and illiterate".

That answer works for me.

BTW, I've heard the same thing about why movies need to use nudity/sex; it's all about  poor writing/lack of talent courtesy of the writer. Think of some of the most celebrated movies ever made: how much nudity, sex and swearing do they contain? Something to think about.

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@SahmIam

Although I'm not from that era, I much prefer movies from the 30's/40's....I find the plots more interesting and well written, there's no cursing, swearing, and 4 letter words, no nudity or explicit intimate acts----just good acting to portray their emotions/feelings.  

[Noel7]

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@Pook wrote:

Language Sciences just published new research that confirms the s#$t we’ve always known: Swearing is a sign of verbal intelligence. Psychologists at Marist College and Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts found that people who use more curse words may actually have stronger language skills overall than those who don’t.
They pitted two popular theories against each other:
“A folk assumption about colloquial speech is that taboo words are used because speakers cannot find better words with which to express themselves: because speakers lack vocabulary. A competing possibility is that fluency is fluency regardless of subject matter—that there is no reason to propose a difference in lexicon size and ease of access for taboo as opposed to emotionally neutral words.”

To test which one was correct, study participants were given 60 seconds to rattle off as many bad words as they could. They were then asked to do the same for a more kid-friendly subject, such as types of food. This is known as the Controlled Oral Word Association Test.
If those who saw cursing as intelligent were correct, participants rattling off profane words with ease should have a harder time coming up with neutral words, but that didn’t happen at all.

Instead, those who listed the most curse words also excelled in other subjects, showing a connection between swearing and an overall larger vocabulary.
Researchers also determined that “speakers who use taboo words understand their general expressive content as well as nuanced distinctions that must be drawn to use slurs appropriately.”
AKA, swearing is a sign of verbal intelligence and not mental deficiency.

This says it all!!!

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Thanks @Pook !  That's what I've been saying and referring to on this line all along.

[Lapdog]

@Noel7  I am out of the loop.

I took my info from Urban dictionary, Washington Post and CNN.  They claim the vast majority are women and Kristin Stewart is a poster child for it. 

They did mention Kanye and I can see that . 

I watch the prison shows and if you call a man the b word that is the total lack of disrespect and is not tolerated,

[Beth-QVC]

This is a reminder for all posters - no live links to external retail sites whether they are a competitor or not. You may mention a site for example as in "...check it out on Amazon..." 

Beth QVC

[Noel7]

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@Beth-QVC wrote:

This is a reminder for all posters - no live links to external retail sites whether they are a competitor or not. You may mention a site for example as in "...check it out on Amazon..." 

Beth QVC

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That must be mine, OK, thanks @Beth-QVC

[Noel7]

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@Nomorebirthdays wrote:

@Noel7. I don't get this, what do thugs cook? Lol I am not up on urban stuff.

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HI @Nomorebirthdays

Sorry, I posted a live link, I didn't think the rule applied to books, but it's Amazon itself we can't link to.

The Thug cookbooks are shown on Amazon, there are several.

[Noel7]

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@Lapdog wrote:

@Noel7  I am out of the loop.

I took my info from Urban dictionary, Washington Post and CNN.  They claim the vast majority are women and Kristin Stewart is a poster child for it. 

They did mention Kanye and I can see that . 

I watch the prison shows and if you call a man the b word that is the total lack of disrespect and is not tolerated,

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We are both right, @Lapdog  It depends on the context it's used.  I hear it on late night shows used for both, for example.

The example I've seen used for RBF is Victoria Beckham.  She nails it, lol.  It's more than just no emotion, it includes a certain attitude

[Pook]

Sometimes gosh, golly and dang just do not do it and leave pent up feelings to be held in!!  A few good ole really bad words just let it all out!!  What I have noted is that nearly all those that I have observed who have aversions to bad language are most often the ones that have many anxiety issues due to not being able to really get things out of their system!