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[Preds]

If we never experience an emotion, then we can't empathize or understand. I appreciate every emotion because they teach us so much.

[jubilant]

On 12/2/2014 Issiestorm said:

I couldn't disagree more. What is true for some isn't true for others. It takes all kinds of people to make a world. 'Never were alive in the first place' - I think that's way off. It also can be construed as very unkind and insensitive.

What I meant to say is that just to live would automatically mean love and loss because almost everyone loves someone or something and sooner or later we all lose something we love....so he would think it was not a choice to never to have loved or lost. Oh dear, now I'm getting mixed up!

oops, I had to edit this to spell lose right

[issiestorm]

It's okay jubilant, I know you wouldn't deliberately be unkind. Just sort of hit me wrong I guess. I don't have very good memories in that regard.

[jubilant]

I did get a bit off topic.... I do that sometimes.... I'm sorry. When John said huh?....it just reminded me so much of the way my DH would react to a question like that that I got a bit tickled and it doesn't take much to distract me these days.

I edited this to say that I am sorry for your painful memories and I pray some day as more and more positive and loving things come your way...those memories will fade a bit with time.

[GCR18]

Yes, I think it's better. Every experience molds us into the people we are.

[Shorty2U]

I wish Susan the best. And YES its better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all! If I wouldn't have been in love and married (to my 1st husband at the time) I woudnt have my amazing children! Even after my divorce from my 1st husband I jumped right back into dating and now I am married again for almost 8 years.

[issiestorm]

On 12/2/2014 jubilant said:

I did get a bit off topic.... I do that sometimes.... I'm sorry. When John said huh?....it just reminded me so much of the way my DH would react to a question like that that I got a bit tickled and it doesn't take much to distract me these days.

I edited this to say that I am sorry for your painful memories and I pray some day as more and more positive and loving things come your way...those memories will fade a bit with time.

Thank you jubilant. Sorry if I was a bit touchy. I know you're one of the truly nice and caring people on these forums.

[lovescats]

On 12/2/2014 SmittenKitten said:

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love. There's lots of love in this life, and romantic love is not the only kind, nor is it necessary to be a happy fulfilled person. When you depend too much on.that for "real happiness" you can end up being codependent, not independent. I think society creates unreal expectations and then people are let down. Better to find happiness within yourself first. Everything else is extra.

Not being snarky but your response tells me you've never experience the kind of love the OP and others are talking about.

I don't know how you can tell what someone has experienced when you're not aware you are being snarky.

[Catitude]

On 12/2/2014 lovescats said:

On 12/2/2014 SmittenKitten said:

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love. There's lots of love in this life, and romantic love is not the only kind, nor is it necessary to be a happy fulfilled person. When you depend too much on.that for "real happiness" you can end up being codependent, not independent. I think society creates unreal expectations and then people are let down. Better to find happiness within yourself first. Everything else is extra.

Not being snarky but your response tells me you've never experience the kind of love the OP and others are talking about.

I don't know how you can tell what someone has experienced when you're not aware you are being snarky.

Are you aware of the fact that I wasn't addressing you? Obviously not. You just want to snark at what you perceive as snark.

[jubilant]

On 12/2/2014 Issiestorm said:

On 12/2/2014 jubilant said:

I did get a bit off topic.... I do that sometimes.... I'm sorry. When John said huh?....it just reminded me so much of the way my DH would react to a question like that that I got a bit tickled and it doesn't take much to distract me these days.

I edited this to say that I am sorry for your painful memories and I pray some day as more and more positive and loving things come your way...those memories will fade a bit with time.

Thank you jubilant. Sorry if I was a bit touchy. I know you're one of the truly nice and caring people on these forums.

Were good Issiestorm