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[Helen Erth]

I do, even though a love lost, especially to death, forever changes you. No matter how long you were together it was never long enough and you will always ask yourself "what if..."

[Lucky Charm]

Well, it's painful for some I imagine to have 'lost at love' or lost their love. (Think Queen Victoria).

They do say however you are extremely lucky to have found true love a second time.

I used to always think that being madly in love was a 'young thing' and that by the time I was older it wouldn't mean as much to me.

But now that I'm older, I see it's an even deeper love.

[151949]

To quote Garth Brooks -- I could have done without the pain but then I would have missed the dance.

When my wonderful parents died this song (The Dance) came to my mind often. I missed them so badly. But I knew in my heart that if I had not had such wonderful parents it would not hurt so bad. I am so glad that they were my parents. They helped me through the mourning when my first husband died and taught me then that I should celebrate the life of the loved one I lost not spend the rest of my life mourning his loss.

[151949]

On 12/1/2014 Lucky Charm said:

Well, it's painful for some I imagine to have 'lost at love' or lost their love. (Think Queen Victoria).

They do say however you are extremely lucky to have found true love a second time.

I used to always think that being madly in love was a 'young thing' and that by the time I was older it wouldn't mean as much to me.

But now that I'm older, I see it's an even deeper love.

I don't think you will find a new love in your life if you are deeply mourning a lost love. You have to be ready to move on.

[Lindsays Grandma]

NM

[Marienkaefer2]

I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love. There's lots of love in this life, and romantic love is not the only kind, nor is it necessary to be a happy fulfilled person. When you depend too much on.that for "real happiness" you can end up being codependent, not independent. I think society creates unreal expectations and then people are let down. Better to find happiness within yourself first. Everything else is extra.

[Colonel Meow]

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love.

Well, of course that would be the ideal.

But I don't think that was the point of Mink's question.

[Marienkaefer2]

On 12/1/2014 Colonel Meow said:

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love.

Well, of course that would be the ideal.

But I don't think that was the point of Mink's question.

Hi..When you quote me, please use the entire quote. Otherwise my point loses some of its context. Thanks.

[Marienkaefer2]

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love. There's lots of love in this life, and romantic love is not the only kind, nor is it necessary to be a happy fulfilled person. When you depend too much on.that for "real happiness" you can end up being codependent, not independent. I think society creates unreal expectations and then people are let down. Better to find happiness within yourself first. Everything else is extra.

This is my entire quite. Also, it's my opinion, just my opinion. I'm not here to argue.

[Helen Erth]

On 12/1/2014 Marienkaefer2 said: I disagree with that saying. Heartbreak like that can devastate and ruin a life. I think it's better to have lots of happy supportive love. There's lots of love in this life, and romantic love is not the only kind, nor is it necessary to be a happy fulfilled person. When you depend too much on.that for "real happiness" you can end up being codependent, not independent. I think society creates unreal expectations and then people are let down. Better to find happiness within yourself first. Everything else is extra.

The saying is "to have loved and lost is better than to have never loved at all."