Do you know people who.... - Page 4

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

It's not unusual, we probably all know someone who does that.

SugarNSpice · ‎03-26-2010

Yes. It's like when they walk in the room and like when they leave.

dooBdoo · ‎06-27-2010

On 11/16/2014 celeste27 said:
I don't think it has to be a "phony" thing at all. It's called "playing well with others". For example, I am not about to insist on stating my opinion with people who I know have very different opinions. I am perfectly capable of saying something innocuous like " I can see how that makes sense to you". (Actually that may sound a little snarky). And I will tend to be louder among loud people and softer with quiet people. It's just a matter of getting the lay of the land.

Some of it is also contagious---we are not living in isolation here. It also depends on how well you know a person. I am unlikely to "get into it" with a neighbor because my main goal with neighbors is to maintain peace.

I think your post is thoughtful and perceptive, celeste27. Successful people (not just financially, but those who are able to get through life with friends in all walks of life, people of all views) are those who can listen, absorb what they hear, feel a part of/adapt to their changing surroundings, and even change their mind on issues now and then. Flexibility is so much healthier than rigidity and it doesn't have to be disingenuous.

Few things reveal your intellect and your generosity of spirit—the parallel powers of your heart and mind—better than how you give feedback.~Maria Popova

Allegheny · ‎03-19-2010

Yes. I know some people who are potty mouths. I am glad that they know when to morph their behavior and language based on the occasion.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

On 11/16/2014 celeste27 said:
I don't think it has to be a "phony" thing at all. It's called "playing well with others". For example, I am not about to insist on stating my opinion with people who I know have very different opinions. I am perfectly capable of saying something innocuous like " I can see how that makes sense to you". (Actually that may sound a little snarky). And I will tend to be louder among loud people and softer with quiet people. It's just a matter of getting the lay of the land.

Some of it is also contagious---we are not living in isolation here. It also depends on how well you know a person. I am unlikely to "get into it" with a neighbor because my main goal with neighbors is to maintain peace.

Well said. It's called being appropriate or the old When in Rome adage. Would you call someone who spoke French in France and German in Germany a phony?

colliegirls · ‎05-13-2012

Being multi faceted and flexible to the situation is not the same as someone who tells people whatever they think they want to hear.

cotton4me · ‎03-09-2010

My boss is like this. We call him the chameleon. He’ll do or say anything to get ahead.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

On 11/17/2014 colliegirls said:
Being multi faceted and flexible to the situation is not the same as someone who tells people whatever they think they want to hear.

Great post. I think people often overlook this fact.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

Yes, especially when it comes to some of the social issues. I have religious beliefs that I won't be changing. However, I don't create an argument when people with differing views tell me with they think--my attitude is that we can still be friends and agree to disagree.