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[esmerelda]

Oh yeah.  All kinds of secrets.  More about others than about myself.  Things people tell me, things I know about other people that I don't share (because it's no one else's business and I only know because I'm the one who took the call, etc.).

People who do tell me things know it won't "go anywhere."  And it doesn't.

[Lilysmom]

I don't know why, but it has always been very important to me to never betray a trust.  I never tell anyone's secret.  I've heard a lot of good ones too.  I rarely trust anyone else to keep a secret for me (except DH).  So many people just can't seem to keep something secret.  Do others find this also or is it just me?  LM

[sophiamarie]

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@GCR18 wrote:

Yes, I have secrets I've never told a sole and probably won't.

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Have you ever told a heel?????

[SeaMaiden]

I have secrets I will take to the grave.  I think everyone has secrets that are never spoken.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@chickenbutt wrote:

I remember times, in the past, when I knew women who would take the confidences of others and share them with their husbands.  They actually said that they never kept ANYTHING from their husbands and that's how they rationalized it.

But to take somebody ELSE'S confidence and tell their husbands, just for the sake of sharing everything with him - that's just creepy...and WRONG.

I'm sure I have secrets.  I know I have some things I've never told anybody, mostly some of the most horrible things from my childhood.  Well, I may have told them to my psychologist back when I was in therapy.   But to tell people, just to share, serves no purpose.    I've shared a lot, but some things are just too awful.

I could never EVER share a confidence of a friend with anybody because it's just plain not mine to share.

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@chickenbutt

ITA .... to confide something private in someone and then to find out later that SHE TOLD HER HUSBAND is not a friend .... and not a trustworthy human being!    That would definitely be the end of the friendship.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@qvcfreak wrote:

I have secrets  that I will take to the grave. To me, if I don't want anyone to know, I don't share it with anyone. And I do keep secrets, to me they are just as important as my own no matter how big or small. 

A few months ago my cousin shared a secret with me, she just needed to vent. My aunt, her mother who I love dearly knew the secret and told others. My cousin called me on it thinking I was the one that told. I knew it had been my aunt because she called to tell me about it and I acted as if I knew nothing and was hearing it for the first time. My cousin and I are no longer close as she still thinks it was me and my aunt knows why we don't talk and she doesn't tell her it was she that told. Very sad but I just don't feel it's my place. 

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@qvcfreak

I strongly disagree ..... it's your integrity in question and this is a relative.   You should definitely tell her the truth and set the record straight.   

[qvcfreak]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

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@qvcfreak wrote:

I have secrets  that I will take to the grave. To me, if I don't want anyone to know, I don't share it with anyone. And I do keep secrets, to me they are just as important as my own no matter how big or small. 

A few months ago my cousin shared a secret with me, she just needed to vent. My aunt, her mother who I love dearly knew the secret and told others. My cousin called me on it thinking I was the one that told. I knew it had been my aunt because she called to tell me about it and I acted as if I knew nothing and was hearing it for the first time. My cousin and I are no longer close as she still thinks it was me and my aunt knows why we don't talk and she doesn't tell her it was she that told. Very sad but I just don't feel it's my place. 

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@qvcfreak

I strongly disagree ..... it's your integrity in question and this is a relative.   You should definitely tell her the truth and set the record straight.   

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I just don't want to make things worst for my cousin. She lives with my aunt, her mother along with her 2 girls and my aunt is very controlling with her. Because she lives with her, she treats her like she is a teenager again. And doesn't allow her to do or go anywhere as she has the girls to take care off. Which is why my cousin called me in the first place and was venting about how she couldn't attend an after work dinner. 

[RedTop]

Yes, I am the keeper of many secrets I will take to the grave.  

I did confide one secret after the person died, because her secret was hurtful to three others, who really needed to understand what changed, and have closure with what had happened.   I did not want to keep that secret to begin with, and let the person know I would keep my mouth shut only while she was alive.

[151949]

No - I am an open book. I don't do things I would be ashamed or embarrassed for anyone to know about me. Secrets make one very stressed.

[sunshine45]

there are things that i keep to myself.....and those things i am very protective of.....they are mine. if i dont want to share those thoughts or memories, then i have no qualms keeping them inside me.

if someone asks me not to say anything about something they told me, then i dont say anything to anyone. if he or she wants anyone else to know then she can tell them.

i pride myself in being quite a good "secret keeper."