Do you have a wedding limit? - Page 2

gramgrandkids1 · ‎10-31-2019

@lovesrecess do what your heart tells you. You sound like you don't want to go and want someone to say it's ok. If you skipped two weddings why do you think you need to attend this one. He has children you have not met and apparently he does not feel it is important to, at the least, introduce you to the woman is is planning on making his new wife. With the age difference and his track record I would not give it a second thought if I did not want to attend. I would send a card, but no gift of any type. You said he has plenty of money so I would not send check.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

@lovesrecess - I kind of agree with the others, but I don't know the relationship you and your brother have or had. I'm guessing he's just trying to get it right? Maybe he's a hopeless romantic?

If I were you, I probably would not attend. I would send a card and I would get a gift certificate to a restaurant near them for $50 so they could enjoy a nice lunch.

Our standard gift for second marriages is dinner to one of the couple's favorite restaurants, when we are invited to a ceremony of any kind, or if we know the couple pretty well (but they choose not to have a ceremony).

AKgirl2 · ‎05-24-2016

@lovesrecess ~ "Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."

Erica Jong

Tinkerbell3 · ‎03-10-2010

Evidently, you are not close since you never met two of his wives and haven't met his fiance.

If you want to be an active person in his life, then I would make the effort to attend the wedding. His failed marriages are a bummer but that's on him, not you.

BeccaLou · ‎02-09-2016

@lovesrecess That is for you to choose. You know your heart. Only you can decide, and I think you have made up your mind. Try to wish them well, in your heart.And I don't know how close you two are as brother and sister emotionally.

BeccaLou · ‎02-09-2016

@gramgrandkids1 It doesn't sound like he ever kept in touch , I hear no mention of pictures of him and the wife's or children. What's up with that. ?

sissel · ‎08-13-2010

No no & no! enough wow she is 30yrs what's next the baby shower? My FIL remarried (in his 80's) new wife is in 80's also my husband was beyond himself. He said just live together at this point. We never sent a card or money. They were fine with it. Your brother marrys too much. If you feel you want to do something give to a charity with their name at least the charity will enjoy it. Hope this marriage lasts.

RoughDraft · ‎03-09-2010

Send a sympathy card to the bride to be.

~The only difference between this place and the Titanic is that the Titanic had a band.~

FancyPhillyshopper · ‎05-02-2017

Wow! What a love life your brother has had! He sounds like a famous celebrity!

I would always send a gift to a family member--maybe a nice picture frame.

It sounds a bit sad that you do not want to go to the wedding to reconnect with your brother or meet the new bride or meet your nieces and nephews.

Just because he cannot make a marriage work does not mean you love him any less, I hope. Maybe if he would have seen you and your sister more he would have a better role model idea of a good marriage.

If you want to go, why not? It could be a nice getaway for you and DH or go with your sister. There are many interesting things to see in Canada.

Life is short, so do not think of this as a dilemma--just a decision to make...without any judgments.