Do you have a lot of friends? - Page 10

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

No, but enough.

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

@ScarletDove I'm very sorry that your dear friend is critically ill.

There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the opposing side, but because if you do not speak, they have changed you.

Foolywooly11 · ‎05-08-2016

@Mominohio: I know what you mean. And I agree about these boards! When I start to feel out of touch, I get my laptop out!

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

This is a timely question. LOL

I don't have a lot of true friends. And I'm really fine with that. I don't let people in very easily and I'm pretty cautious.

Just yesterday I realized I considered someone a much better friend than she considered me. I'm not getting pulled into her drama anymore. I will see her a lot of weekends because of our husbands and I'll be cordial but we will not be like we were. I'm done.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@Lipstickdiva wrote:
This is a timely question. LOL

I don't have a lot of true friends. And I'm really fine with that. I don't let people in very easily and I'm pretty cautious.

Just yesterday I realized I considered someone a much better friend than she considered me. I'm not getting pulled into her drama anymore. I will see her a lot of weekends because of our husbands and I'll be cordial but we will not be like we were. I'm done.

@Lipstickdiva

And isn't it great we have matured to the point, where, like in this instance, you can still have a relationship because of your husband, but simply know you are pulling back and drawing a line about how involved you will be?

I knew I had grown up when I didn't have to burn every bridge in every relationship I wasn't happy with. I really felt more in control when I simply curtailed the depth of my participation, often without the other person even sensing a difference. I don't feel it is avoidance, but simply moving forward with as little fuss as possible, so others around me can still maintain what they want or need from the 'group'.

ScarletDove · ‎07-11-2010

@Bird mama wrote:
@ScarletDove I'm very sorry that your dear friend is critically ill.

@Bird mama Thank you very much for I too am sorry to be losing my Buddy (his actual name)...he has always been like the clock on the wall, I could always count on him!

Best.....

ScarletDove · ‎07-11-2010

@NycVixen wrote:
Since I was in elementary school, I've made friends more with boys, then men as I've grown up. I still keep in touch with my male ex co-worker who I consider my best friend. Now that I'm married, it's harder to make friends when I mostly click with the opposite sex.

I have many colleagues, acquaintances but very few true friends. I've lost people who I thought were close to me that stopped calling altogether when I was laid off or faced other difficult times. That was a very hard blow and it made me very wary of friendships going forward.
@NycVixen I think actually many of us have experienced the same kind of situations.....been there, understand!

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

When young you have school, when you have children you meet other moms, you meet through your job, neighbors etc. However, all those situations change (graduate, children grow up, change jobs, move etc) and it is hard to continue to maintain friendships once the reason you became friends change or at least that has been my experience. As you get older it is really hard.

winamac1 · ‎12-29-2010

I have quite a few friends, but I'm only interested in authentic friendships.

I will stop communications with friends after awhile if I don't find the friendships genuine or if they are one sided. I invest a lot of time into my friendships as far as being there for friends not just when things are good--but when things are not so good and they are in time of need.

My life is fairly simple--no children--one husband-fairly stable job so I don't have a lot of drama going on. I have a few friends that have drama, and I always am there for them. One I unfriended about 15 months ago as I felt she'd never reciprocate if I needed it. I don't think friendship is a quid pro quo, but I do think that one has to evaluate their friendships and see if they are genuine and authentic.

4 or 5 truly good friends is worth its weight in gold to me.

"friends don't let friends drink white zinfandel"

Susan in California · ‎06-02-2014

I have a few very dear friends. We care about each other and always hope for the best in each other's life. None of us are hoping that the other slips on a banana peel, so to speak.

I also know some people I would not truly call "friends" but rather acquaintances. I enjoy them as well, but our relationships are

more superficial.