Re: Do you have a Valentine story to share?

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

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My first husband died on Valentines day 1979. When my second husband and I were deciding on a wedding date he mentioned Valentines Day and I said "oh no , that's the day Peter died" so he said OK it's settled then - we get married on Valentines Day to take the stink off it. So valentines is a kinda bittersweet day for me.I think sadly of the man who was the love of my life but passed way too soon and I enjoy an anniversary with my hubby of 35 years. Every year I get flowers signed with love from both of us Pete and ______. So how sweet & understanding is that?
That's too much to handle but if you're okay with it that's all that matters. More power to you.
I think my husband is mature enough to not be jealous of a man who died 39 years ago.
@151949that's not what I meant at all. I would not appreciate a new husband telling me that it was okay to get married on the date of the death of my 1st husband nor would I appreciate the new husand including the name of the 1st on a holiday card. It should have been left up to you not him when you got married since you suffered quite an emotional loss. That's how I would have reacted 151949.
Well then it's a good thing he married me and not you then. I know he respects my memories & understands my feelings, and he is secure in his place in my life over the past 35 years.
Yes, you're right because I don't like controlling men and to me he was being insensitive to YOU. @151949

BTW - no one can control anyone any further than they ALLOW themselves to be controlled.If I didn't want to marry him that day - I wouldn't have. Period.