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SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

No. We just buy what we want or need. Why wait?

tansy · ‎01-02-2011

We didn't have much money when we married and didn't waste it on trinkets for each other. Then the sons came along and our money went to gifts for them. Both of their birthdays fell in early January which made for a couple of very tight months.

Now, when one of us sees something we really want, we buy it right then and there. We're both happy not to have to shop for each other.

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

@Mary Bailey You just brought tears to my eyes.

There are many elements: wind, fire, water
But none quite like the element of surprise

homedecor1 · ‎03-09-2010

No after all these years what could either of us need or want?

But, we do a fun trip to casino sometime in December. On Christmas, we will just exchange some lottery tickets...last year I won $1000! Him - ZERO! He's a good sport though.

For the past 3 years we both gave each other the same silly card! Guess we know each other well!

ann1989 · ‎02-24-2019

@I am still oxox wrote:
We celebrate Chanukah and I try to give him one cute but heartfelt gift per night. I shop for him at Barnes and Nobel and he shops for me at the dollar store.
I know it is the thought that counts but I am starring to feel why bother.
I put a lot of thought and effort into his gifts

I think if you stopped you might miss it. I buy my husband gifts and finally found the perfect site. The gifts are gag gifts but he loves them. We like light hearted gifts that make us laugh

CAMOGIRL · ‎09-14-2010

Do I? Yes.

Why? Because I like to.

We both like to exchange gifts.

-Texas Hill Country-

Group 5 minus 1 · ‎03-11-2010

We give each other our "Christmas Wishes" list.There is not much we want that we can not purchase ourselves. DH always does a stocking,I do not like to do stockings.

'cuz every girl's crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man

PINKdogWOOD · ‎05-13-2010

@I am still oxox I feel your pain and I am sorry for your's. Your's buying 'stuff' at the dollar store is as bad as mine many years ago shopping at walmart for a huge bag of 'stuff'. That's when I put put the end to buying stuff anywhere for us.

DH never shopped in a timely manner for me let alone putting effort and thought into what he spent money on. It was yet another year of shopping on Dec 24 for whatever junk picked over, touched, handled, dirty yuck junk. Nothing I hinted about, totally worng sizing, yet this was what he did. We were out of town at my parents' home, when it was all done and over with, we headed back home. He wrapped NOTHING. We got into our home, I surrounded the tree with beautiful packages for him, well planned and thought out. He handed me this big bag from walmart. I just looked at him, opened to 'peek' inside and handed it right back to him and told hiim I did not want any of whatever junk he had in it.

That was the end of exchanging gifts. Thank you DH for ruining the season for me!!!

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

@PINKdogWOOD

I give him gifts because I want to not need to, it gets tiring hearing oh I do not know what to buy you, so then do not insult me with your cheap dollar store gifts. We have been married for over 25 years, you think he would of learned that I like thoughtful gifts, not something that he has to. I came across the gifts he is going to give me and lets just say I am appalled. I am not sure how to react to the ******, weather to be gracious or throw a fit. I will admit in years past he did great gifts like a Sephora gift card or on year he bought me 8(one for each night of Chanuaksh) 15 dollar gift cards to the nail salon I go to. This creativity seems to be gone

@PINKdogWOOD wrote:
@I am still oxox I feel your pain and I am sorry for your's. Your's buying 'stuff' at the dollar store is as bad as mine many years ago shopping at walmart for a huge bag of 'stuff'. That's when I put put the end to buying stuff anywhere for us.

DH never shopped in a timely manner for me let alone putting effort and thought into what he spent money on. It was yet another year of shopping on Dec 24 for whatever junk picked over, touched, handled, dirty yuck junk. Nothing I hinted about, totally worng sizing, yet this was what he did. We were out of town at my parents' home, when it was all done and over with, we headed back home. He wrapped NOTHING. We got into our home, I surrounded the tree with beautiful packages for him, well planned and thought out. He handed me this big bag from walmart. I just looked at him, opened to 'peek' inside and handed it right back to him and told hiim I did not want any of whatever junk he had in it.

That was the end of exchanging gifts. Thank you DH for ruining the season for me!!!

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@I am still oxox We used to do both Hannukah & Christmas when the kids were little but it got to be too much. Since I have a very small family and his family comes over for Christmas that's what we celebrate now. I think when you get to a certain point in your life sometimes things need to change. I can see how it would have been fun early in your marriage to select a nice meaninful gift for each of the 8 nights but if it's a chore now then it's time to stop.

ETA: I understand that you're hurt at his lack of thoughtfulness. I would be too and in the past have laid down the law on what I consider an acceptable gift....I know it's not very graceful to complain but he knew years ago that I don't want any junk!!....put a little thought into it or just don't bother! I don't understand why some men think that this is fine....it's not cute to go into a store at the very last minute when you've had plenty of time to shop or at least think about it.

As for me so far I only got DH some Bombas socks (ok he needs socks) and an NFL sweatshirt. He really doesn't need anything. I'm the one who buys stuff for everyone and sometimes I feel that it's just too overwhelming with too many people to buy for.